To invest means to use, give, or devote (time, talent, etc.), as for a purpose or to achieve something and to involve or engage especially emotionally.
There are so many areas of our lives where we actually have to make an investment.
With the raising of our children, we are devoting time, energy, and love. Children need protection, support, encouragement, guidance, discipline and our attention, constantly. Our role as parents is never off, so it usually requires a great deal of investment.
In our careers, we’re investing our time, energy and talents. We have to use our innovation and our professional schooling and training to deliver the results we promised our employer. They have expectations of us based on what we said they would see in our work performance.
The time we invest in our needs is quite substantial as well. We often need, plan and enjoy that “me-time” we often talk about. We make time for our hobbies and outings with friends. We usually enjoy this part of our life, making it easy and natural to put our all into it.
There is another role, however, we sometimes fail to consistently invest our 100% into and that is the intimacy in our relationships. Some couples take it for granted and don’t realize how crucial it is to keep this part of marriage alive and well.
There are several ways to actually invest in our intimacy, here are just a few.
Simply think about making love to your spouse, often. This is part of the problem, we aren’t actually picturing ourselves being intimate with our partner. We are too busy focusing on the challenges of the day, we don’t even have time to fantasize about our mates. If we really thought about it throughout the day, can you imagine how excited you would be to get home? At some point during your day, make it a habit of picturing those sexy parts of your spouse’s body that get you most excited. Can you imagine how just the thought will give you the energy you need to make a night of passion actually happen?
Talk dirty, sexy and playfully to your spouse. Even though we’re married, flirting should still be present. Sexy text messages and photos are sometimes just what’s needed to initiate those intimate moments. Use opportunities to role play and get creative in how you entice one another.
Remember the bedroom should be a mystical, magical place of sexy adventures. It can’t be that if it’s disorganized, messy or filled with either children or items that remind you of children. Gently kick those little darlings out and make them sleep in their own spaces so you’ll have more opportunity to get your freak on.
Touch, touch and touch again. We sometimes devalue the art of kissing, touching and fondling. Even the most worn out individual will wake up when touched in all the right places.
It’s okay to hire help! This is a big one because this is the excuse most of us use. Working and stay at home parents just have too many responsibilities. It’s challenging to do all that we do throughout the day and still make time to physically love on our spouse. Believe it or not, there are very reasonably priced housekeepers that will thoroughly clean your home leaving you with enough energy to enjoy intimate time with your spouse.
Married folks, I can’t stress enough how important it is for you to make a full investment in this part of your marriage. I know how easy it is to get sidetracked. However, we must keep in mind our marriage needs intimacy, and it needs it frequently.
BMWK, How are you investing in your intimacy?
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