What keeps us from being vulnerable….not being able to trust someone we want to confide in, lies and misunderstandings that we have believed to be true, thinking we can handle our problems by ourselves, etc. If you have a hard time pouring out your heart and being vulnerable to God, it may be because you do not trust Him on what you’re dealing with.
Being vulnerable is important in relationships that have the purpose to grow and do well. If you have issues being vulnerable to someone you’re dating, have you brought that before God yet? We should be able to come to those we care about with the concerns on our minds and in our hearts, but we must take it to God before we take it to people. How can we have healthy functioning relationships if we can’t give our concerns first to God? He can answer your problems if you are willing to be honest with what’s going on and trust Him to help you.
If you start at the top with God, it will be easier to be vulnerable with those you love, thus building a stronger connection. The relationship may be new or in the state of refreshing, but find the root cause of what’s preventing you from being totally vulnerable and take it to God first. This requires you to think and be honest with yourself; fear is not invited to the conversation.
How does one do this?
A good way to start is by taking the time to be one on one with God. Psalm 139 covers a good portion of trust and vulnerability; verses 23 and 24 can be said in your personal prayers:
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Yes, being vulnerable is a risk, but we can always trust God, He is not a man that has an inconsistent expression of love. God’s love never changes; all the more reason to be vulnerable with Him and seek direction on who to be open and vulnerable with when it comes to your personal relationships, now and in the future.
Tatianah Green is a multimedia content creator with a passion for writing. In 2012 she launched her first blog, B.L.I.S.S. {Black Love & Inspiration for Saved Singles} to encourage the Black faith community to be the best in their personal relationships with God that will in turn create successful relationships and marriages. Tatianah wants to engage readers in conversations that discuss how our community approaches popular culture, dating, and relationships. Tatianah lives, works, and dates in Chicago. Connect with Tatianah on her blog, www.blissforsingles.com
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