[tps_header]One question I get asked quite often is, “How do you know when you’re ready for marriage?”
I used to give a very non-direct answer such as, “You’re never really ready for marriage.” Then, I would go into a long explanation of that concept, which is largely true.
As one of the most emphatic teachers of marriage preparation, I can tell you that even with premarital counseling, you will still need to learn more about yourself and your relationship once you are married.
I was riding in the car with one of my mentees the other day when he asked me the very notable question, “How do you know when you’re ready for marriage?” This time my answer was different.
I looked at my life and marriage to see what decisions in my singleness have had the most impact in my marriage today. Those decisions actually came down to four commitments that I believe are strong signs of marriage readiness.
Four Commitments to Determine Readiness for Marriage[/tps_header]
1. Commitment to God
What you will learn very quickly about marriage is that we’re not smart enough to create such a highly complex institution. Marriage was created by God and for God, so it might bring glory back to Him. Well, before marriage comes, you must first learn how to be committed to God in the form of a relationship.
It is this commitment that becomes your foundation relationship in your life. If you are unable to commit daily to an unconditionally loving, never failing and always consistent God, then what makes you think you will be able to commit to an imperfect, will-hurt-your-feelings and fail-you-more-times-than-you-plan man or woman? Commitment to God is essential for a healthy marriage relationship.