Happy New Year! It's the year 2020 and what we hope will be the start of a new and exciting decade for you and your spouse. As I write this, my husband and I are celebrating 18 years of marriage! I can't help but be grateful to God...well, especially since we met in church. That said, it got me thinking. What is a Christian marriage supposed to look like? Are we living it? If … [Read more...]
Christian Singles: 4 Scriptures to Restore Your Faith When You Have Given in to Sexual Temptation
So, you desire to be celibate, but, well, you're no longer a virgin and you think that, even though you are a Christian, the celibacy ship has sailed. You wonder if there is any hope for those who have already tossed sexual purity to the side and given in to sexual temptation. Well, there is. In Christ, there is always hope. God is a God who showers His grace and mercy on … [Read more...]
3 Lifeline Communication Tips for a Healthy Christian Marriage
By: Kimberly Keaton Let's all admit it. Communication can be challenging. But, the truth is, it does not have to be a lost cause in our marriages. In particular, when it comes to Christian marriages, it should be even more edifying. The lifeline of a healthy Christian marriage is successful communication the way God intended. The Bible tells us to be kind, compassionate, … [Read more...]
4 Commitments for Christians That’ll Determine Their Readiness for Marriage
[tps_header]One question I get asked quite often is, “How do you know when you’re ready for marriage?” I used to give a very non-direct answer such as, “You're never really ready for marriage.” Then, I would go into a long explanation of that concept, which is largely true. As one of the most emphatic teachers of marriage preparation, I can tell you that even with … [Read more...]
What Does It Mean to Be “Good” in Singleness for a Christian Woman?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My boyfriend and I constantly argue and fight about what it means to be good in singleness. He believes that being good in singleness is about how he conducts himself in church and in the community. I disagree. We have sex on a regular basis, and he does not view this as being problematic. In his mind, he believes he is good in his singleness. Because … [Read more...]
2 Myths Christian Singles Must Stop Believing About Relationships
There are certain well-established myths that Christians have overtime embraced as expectations for marriage. A myth is anything that is an idea that is WIDELY held, but false. Unfortunately, some of these dubious beliefs surround the Christian approach to relationships. If you’re a single Christian with desires to find your future spouse, you have to have the right mindset … [Read more...]
3 New Easter Traditions to Start This Year with Your Family
Celebrating Easter is a long-standing family tradition for families across the world. Celebrating the resurrection of Jesus is a major Christian holiday (and holy day). How does your family celebrate Easter? Have you established any traditions outside of those learned as a child? Here are three Easter family traditions to consider this holiday season. Retell the story of … [Read more...]
Dear God: Where’s My Baby?
Dek: With every pregnancy announcement—and trust me, there have been plenty—I found myself slipping further into depression and confusion…But I learned to live in the now. It’s funny. I’ve been trying to write this post for a while now. I was even disguising my feelings, by initially naming it: Dear God: Where’s My Next Blessing? However, I know God has called me to be a … [Read more...]
The One Thing God Really Wants From Your Marriage
Marriage is one of the oldest institutions we have on the earth. The first marriage ever recorded was that of Adam and Eve, thousands of years ago, at the genesis of man’s existence. It is from this marriage we learn God’s desire for man not to be alone, but to have a helpmate to help accomplish God’s purpose for their lives. Fast forward to modern day. People are still … [Read more...]
Singles: How Intimate Can You Really Get And Still Remain Pure?
I grew up in a semi Christian home where my mom was a strong believer, but my dad was just a really good man with no desire to go to church. As a result, I became a hypocritical Christian. I said and did one thing in church in order to keep my mom happy, but lived a completely different lifestyle outside of the church. This hypocriticial spirit followed me into my dating … [Read more...]
Everything Changed After My Husband Prayed This Prayer
No one ever told me how to be a wife. Of course I read a few books leading up to the wedding, and we attended marriage counseling, but how to actually BE a wife was never discussed. Obviously, I was encouraged to be supportive, willing to compromise, etc. But how do you BE a wife? I've been married for 5 months, and I believe the first 2 months I wondered if I was doing this … [Read more...]
3 Ways My Wife and I Thrive in an Interfaith Marriage
A few years ago, I revealed to my wife that I was no longer a Christian. Through the transition in our life, she has been very supportive of my journey. Today, where we place our day to day faith, is vastly different from the day we said our vows. Here are 3 ways: Keeping Respect Paramount Unfortunately, there are too many relationships and marriages out there where the … [Read more...]
The #1 Reason Why Christian Women are Still Single
The other day I received this question in my inbox: "What do you actually have to do as a single Christian young woman to meet your man. Wait? Or is there are something else?" With so many Christian singles hearing dating advice like “wait on the Lord,” it’s no wonder this sista is confused and looking for real answers. The messages to Christian singles are conflicting. … [Read more...]
How I Told My Wife I Was No Longer a Christian
Before my wife and I were married, we asked each other what was the biggest fear we had about one another. My fear was she would be too indecisive, and would not be satisfied with the choices she made throughout our life together. Her largest fear about me was that I wasn’t Christian enough for her ideals of a husband and a family leader. Through the years our fears played … [Read more...]
Why It’s Important to Celebrate the “Bride to Be”, Even If It Hurts
So, my wedding is 10 days away. Excuse me for a moment: Yep, you read that right. 10. DAYS. AWAY. This journey started in January (2014), and here we are. Time literally flew by. I've learned so much during this process. First, let me say that wedding planning is for the birds. And, this better be my first and only wedding, because ain't nobody got time to go through … [Read more...]