THE UGLY…

What are the challenges with dating in 2016 and Social Media?

Stephanie: Dating in the age of social media is very challenging. You have to make sure you maintain a high level of privacy while you’re getting to know the person. Why? Because there are social media stalkers who like to find you and alert you of their “personal” relationship with the person you are dating. Today, it seems to be the expectation that a part of dating includes sending a provocative or lewd picture of yourself. That’s a big No-No and a turn-off for grown women.

Ishalah: People also like to contact you via social media and tell you unsolicited information about the person, which could potentially ruin the relationship before you really get to know the person. Men hear this clearly, “Women fall in love between their ears.” You have to be able to hold an actual conversation and captivate her with your words.

Felicia: You have to be careful of individuals who try to inbox you test messages—messages they could have easily posted on your timeline—just to see how you will respond and how far they can get with you. What I loved about traditional dating is that you actually talked to each other rather than texting. I miss those long telephone calls where you don’t want to hang up.

Question: Sex on the first date, is it a sign of sexual assertiveness or sexual promiscuity?

Stephanie: Definitely, sexually promiscuous. I know whether or not I want to sleep with you on the first date, but I’m not going to.

Ishalah: Sex on the first date for some is an expectation in 2016. People nowadays show up for a date with their “clean bill of health” papers date stamped. I know two [separate] couples who slept together on the first date and they are living their happily ever after, so I’m not judging anyone who opts to have sex on the first date. Now, it’s not for me. Besides I don’t want to get caught, because if it’s good, he might not be able to get rid of me.

Felicia: I have to get to know someone before I sleep with them. I have to be comfortable enough with someone to let my freak flag fly.

This discussion was truly revealing to me. I had no idea the things that single women have to deal with today. Being single certainly has its benefits, but it is not without challenges. I admire and pray for women who have to navigate the single seas in 2016.

BMWK single women, what is your experience with dating in 2016? Please share your trials and triumphs in the comments below and help educate and empower others.