What couple hasn’t had an argument? All couples disagree. It’s natural. In fact, it is normal to have differing opinions from time to time. What’s not normal is fussing and cussing, going back and forth, and arguing till someone shuts down. Similarly, if you're not careful, instead of shutting down the argument, you can end up shutting down your spouse. So, let's reverse this. … [Read more...]
The One Thing You MUST Have If You Want Good Communication with Your Spouse… No Exceptions
There is one thing that needs to be present before you can even begin having or improving communication with your spouse - honesty. And not only do you have to be honest, but you also have to be honest often. Do just one or the other, or none at all, and you risk constructing your communication on shaky ground. Let me explain. Honesty is a must! Honesty is very bottom rung on … [Read more...]
Being Mary Jane: How to Tell Your Man He’s Bad in Bed Without Offending Him
On last night’s episode of Being Mary Jane, Mary Jane’s friend and sidekick, Kara experienced a challenge many have faced in their relationships. Kara’s love interest, Orlando is an attractive, professional athlete, (some would call him the total package.) However, he is unable to satisfy her sexually. And for Kara, that is a problem. In her very own tell-it-like-it-is way, … [Read more...]
The Easiest Way to Improve Communication and End Arguments Faster but You Ain’t Trying to Hear It
One of the biggest challenges in marriage is that we don't listen well enough. We have opinions, ideas, facts and information we need to share. And many times, our points of reference feel so much more important than listening to how our spouse is feeling. Sometimes, we can pretend we hear the other person, just to get to the part of the conversation where we can talk. But … [Read more...]
Fellas: The 10 Biggest Dating Mistakes that Will Get You “Friendzoned” with a Quickness
Sometimes I wonder how easy it is for people who say "let's just be friends" to explain their reasoning behind it. There may have been some initial attraction with one or two parties involved, but then it just seemed one sided without much being said. Guys, I want to help you avoid being invited to your lady friend’s Thanksgiving dinner with her family only to be introduced … [Read more...]
“We Need to Talk.” What To Do When Communication Problems Arise
Communication problems are common in marriages. And, to be honest, it’s not just married people who struggle with effectively expressing their thoughts. All around the world, people are communicating poorly every single second, and most usually don't realize it. So what do we do? How do we change this pattern of poor communication in marriages, knowing that the … [Read more...]