Hello Dr. Buckingham, I'm sort of at a crossroad with my current relationship. I'm a single woman in my late 30's and have one child who is an adult. He's recently living in L.A. where he is pursuing his music career. I was in a long-term relationship that lasted about 15yrs. About 3 years ago, I met a very nice and caring man who I believe that I can share the duration of my … [Read more...]
Cutting Off Your Temptation Triggers in Dating
I never really gave the thought of withholding kissing ‘til my wedding day until I began to read and hear numbers of testimonies of couples who’ve done just that. For some, kissing is a physical and intimate act that leads minds to wander to places they shouldn’t as a single. For others, kissing leads to more physical expressions of intimacy, which again is not appropriate in a … [Read more...]
3 Big Reasons Why He Won’t Put A Ring On It. Is Dating Outdated?
Is it just me, or does it seem like no one wants to date anymore? Flirtationships have replaced relationships. People are hanging out instead of going out, texting instead of calling and meeting up instead of courting. The definition of dating has definitely shifted and I'm on a mission to figure out why so I can help you enjoy the dating process again. It's hard to get him … [Read more...]
Singles: Do You Know the Benefits of Dating Yourself?
“Did you come here by yourself?” a girl asked me as I agreed to take their photos in front of the evening’s venue. “Yeah,” I replied, explaining in a nutshell that there were no more group tickets so I came anyway. At the moment it was hard to determine if I was questioned out of pity or out of awe. Either way I got my photo in front of the concert venue, an eager smile across … [Read more...]
4 Reasons Why We Love Mr. or Ms. Wrong
Guys and ladies have both been hit with the epidemic of falling for the bad woman or the bad guy. Something about their mysteriousness, their attitude, swagger, and overall coolness made us swoon or find them attractive. That may have been okay for one time, but if you find yourself consistently going for the no-good smooth-talker, the gold digger, or the church-on-Sundays, … [Read more...]
Why Men Are Afraid to Ask You Out: 4 Things You Can Do About It
A single black woman that I’m friends with on Facebook posted an encounter she had with two separate men. It lit up a firestorm of men vs. women in the comments. Two men from her past, in two separate conversations, both claimed that they were interested in her and wanted to ask her out, “but she never gave them a chance." She frustratingly replied to both of them, “You never … [Read more...]
3 Common Challenges that Singles Face
I have had some conversations in the past few days that remind me of how often we contribute to the creation of our own issues as singles. Singles are often so entrenched in wanting a relationship they are willing to settle for just about anything. There are also times that people want other people to do certain things, especially where children are concerned. Finally, … [Read more...]