Dear Dr. Buckingham, I'm a young, single, and soulful black male who is attractive according to my female friends. I get a lot of girls’ numbers, but I can never seem to get past the first date. I grew up in a religious household, but other Christian girls won't give me the time of day. I embrace the essence of life and I am a passionate young man. I do not understand what I … [Read more...]
Singles: Would You Rent a Bae for the Holiday?
Your whole family is meeting at your aunt's house for her annual Christmas Eve dinner. You're excited to catch up with family, joke with cousins you haven't seen in a whole year and, most of all, grub on all of your auntie's signature holiday dishes. But there's one thing that's concerning you...you're single this year...again! Tired of being bugged by pesky family members … [Read more...]
3 Warning Signs Your Man Has NO Plans Whatsoever to Marry You
Ever since I wrote an article, explaining how my husband married me 11 months after we met despite originally telling me he wasn't looking for a relationship, I've had sisters tell me that my story goes against every piece of advice they've read, which encourages women not to waste their time with men who make it clear from the beginning that marriage is not on the menu. So … [Read more...]
7 Worthwhile Things You Could Be Doing Instead of Waiting for Marriage
By Marcee Woodard When I was single, I spent a lot of time waiting—waiting for someone to ask me out. And if I liked the date, I started waiting to get asked out on a second date. After that, I was waiting for that same person to ask me to be their girlfriend. If I made it to girlfriend status, I started waiting for the relationship to get serious, so that I could finally … [Read more...]
Should Christian Singles Try Speed Dating? My Raw and Real Experience with the Trend
Ever been speed dating? Before I turned 30, I wanted to give speed dating a try. Movies like Hitch to 40 Year Old Virgin, which featured speed dating scenes, left me curious. As a busy woman, the idea seemed alluring, but I wondered how can people go on speed dates and honestly establish a legitimate connection. If you're curious too but have always wanted to try it, don't … [Read more...]
If Bae Don’t Pray, Why Can’t He Stay? Reasons Why You SHOULD Consider Dating a Man Who Doesn’t Go to Church
There's a really popular saying directed at Christian singles: "If bae don't pray, bae can't stay!" You'll hear preachers shout it at Christian conferences and see it worn by women on cute v-neck t-shirts. The message behind this mantra can be summed up like this: A man may be interested in you. He may be professional, handsome and respectful. But if he doesn't show you he … [Read more...]
How One Date Showed Me I Really Wasn’t Ready to Date Again
Have you ever prayed for something to happen and didn’t expect it to be answered so quickly? Many times God gives us exactly what we ask for…to teach us something. I remember praying to God to go on a date, and He answered my prayer pretty much immediately. It was a casual prayer, a quick conversation with the Lord to let Him know how I was feeling and before I knew it, I was … [Read more...]
Singles: 4 Reasons to Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone to Achieve Better Relationships
As scary as it might be for some of you, there are going to be moments in your single season when you’re going to have to get uncomfortable. Last year, I put a quote on my vision board about living outside of your comfort zone. It held me accountable to something that I knew deep down in my heart that I wanted and needed in order to become what God had created me to be, and … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: Stop Looking for Boaz! Ask God to Send You This Kind of Man
If you're a single Christian woman who has spent any time in the church, you've probably been taught to pray for your Boaz. In sermon after sermon, you're told that Boaz was a handsome, wealthy man who pursued Ruth and married her because she was willing to wait for him. You may have even been taught to kick Boaz's cousins "Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, … [Read more...]
Singles: If You Want Your Relationship to Grow, You Must Do this One Thing
"There should be a consistency that runs through us all. For Jesus doesn’t change—yesterday, today, tomorrow; He’s always totally Himself." Hebrews 13:8 MSG One of the most irritating things to go through in dating is what some call "the switch up." It is when you thought all was going well with someone and then out of nowhere you don't hear from them anymore, in any … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: Here’s How To Stop Attracting The Wrong Men And Sabotaging Your Life
Do you ever wonder why you only attract the wrong men in your life? Why does it seem like the only men interested in you are players, commitment-phobes, emotionally unavailable, or just not ready for anything serious? There's a surprising reason why and once you understand it, you'll change your dating experience for good. Let me begin with a little story. Imagine that there … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 5 Ways To Make Your Next Date Your Best Date
In the previous article, I asked the fellas to step up and put the date back into dating. Now I’d like to talk to the sisters about how to be a great date! As a professional matchmaker, it’s my honor to interview men about what they’re looking for in a mate. And honey, I’ve heard some amazing stories about women’s bad behavior on dates that cause men to disappear! I call … [Read more...]
5 Irresistible Qualities Women Desire in a Christian Man
Hey ladies, what’s on your list in what makes a godly man attractive? Guys, what do you think attracts women to you the most? Aside from looks and other attributes that we may list as desirable when the question comes to mind, here are five irresistible qualities of the heart and character in a Christian man that ladies love as well. 1. Humility (Proverbs 15:33) Loving … [Read more...]
3 Negative Attitudes that will Keep you Single When You Don’t Want to Be
Are you speaking life over your dating & relationship experiences? If you're single & you're saying one of these common phrases, you could be blocking your Boaz from showing up! I have to warn you. I'm about to share truth with you that could set you free. But it might make you mad at first. I promise, however, that if you stay with me, you'll get clarity on dating … [Read more...]
Confessions of Church Players: What Sisters Can Do to Protect Themselves
"Adam & Eve weren't married, " he said. I was dumbfounded. I couldn't believe my boyfriend, a minister in training, was trying to convince me to sleep with him prior to marriage by using Bible characters. When I persisted in saying no, he told me my desire to abstain was a "good goal," but wasn't realistic. This man wasn't the only "church player" I dated prior to … [Read more...]