People always say that marriage is hard work, and it is, but what makes it harder is when couples avoid having difficult conversations. The reason for avoidance can vary. Anything, from discomfort to fear to a simple oversight, can lead a couple to miss out on a discussion that could very well make all the difference in the type of marriage they have. When couples avoid … [Read more...]
The “No Declarations Rule” Minimizes Resistance in My Marriage
One rule that Che and I follow in our marriage is the "No Declarations" Rule. On the surface it seems like its repressive and stifling, but the truth is, that it is one of the best rules we came up with. It forces us to be true partners and to communicate about all things, and especially those things that may have a profound impact on our marriage, household and future. When … [Read more...]
I Did It My Way: How to Compromise in Your Marriage
Sometimes marriage reminds me of being a kid. It's literally like you've gotta get permission for almost everything you do. I can remember being a kid trying to convince my moms to buy me a pair of Jordans for $140 (which in '88 was BANANAS for a pair of sneakers.) And now, I find myself doing the same as an adult! Whether it's still a pair of Jordans some 22 years later or a … [Read more...]
Don’t Let One Bad Season Ruin Your Entire Marriage
Let's face it; as beautiful as marriage is we all have ruts sometimes. Even the healthiest and best relationships have seasons: seasons of happiness, transition, and even seasons of falling in love all over again. Yes, you heard me right. Sometimes in long term relationships, if you don't watch out you can let one of the seasons ruin everything you have worked so hard to build! … [Read more...]
You’ve Learned Your Love Language; Now What?
Dr. Gary Chapman’s bestselling book entitled, “The Five Love Languages” is a game changer when it comes to the way we understand love and marriage. It has become a must-read for engaged and married couples for many years. The basic premise of the book is that couples experience challenges when they don’t understand each other’s love language. The five love languages Dr. … [Read more...]
How to Discuss 4 of the Most Awkward Topics With Your Spouse
Relationship experts agree, healthy communication is needed if a couple plans to create a strong foundation for their partnership. It is definitely a key ingredient. And, is always recommended when we discuss family finances, when we disagree, and as we're planning for the future. A couple should be able to make requests and verbalize what's on their mind. In addition to the … [Read more...]