I recently had a client, who was afraid to get into a relationship, say, "I just don't want to lose myself in a relationship." Well of course I peeled that onion back and discovered that the core of the issue was that my client didn't realize that compromising isn't the same thing as settling. Why has the word compromise become a 4-letter word instead of a 10-letter word!? Why … [Read more...]
The Truth About What Really Makes a Man Want to Change His Ways
Is it true, men will only change for one woman? In an August interview with Black Enterprise, Steve Harvey stated: All men can change. All men will change, but there is only one woman we are going to change for. Just one... If he ain't changin', it's 'cause you ain't the one!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLyWjkiyRL0 BMWK, what do you think? I don’t agree with … [Read more...]
I’m Willing to Compromise, But She “Betta” Stop Trying To Change Me
This is kinda personal. I scarcely put my private marital issues out there. And this issue my wife and I are going through is on-going — meaning, I don’t know what the outcome is going to be. But grown men aren't afraid to share their story mid-test…before it becomes a glorified testimony. It went down over the weekend like this. I was coming out of the master bathroom. My … [Read more...]
Should You Make Sacrifices Just to Be in A Relationship?
The majority of us have a desire to share our lives with someone who makes us laugh, greatly contributes to the joy in our life and shows us real and lasting love. It’s a human requirement to feel loved. Yes love, when it’s done right, trumps everything. It’s no wonder some of us become fools for love. In an effort to obtain a happily ever after, some are making costly … [Read more...]
This Is the Difference Between Compromising and Settling
It's always necessary to compromise in a relationship. It's never ok to settle. Here is the simple difference: You compromise on your wants, but you settle on your needs. That's it. And most of us don't know the difference between our wants and our needs because we don't know ourselves well enough to know the difference. And since we can't communicate what we don't know, we … [Read more...]