If you’ve grown up as a female in this world, then you’ve likely been taught that to be truly happy, you need your Prince Charming to make you complete. You go to family gatherings and all your Aunties are giving you looks of sympathy and/or questioning. They’re probably thinking, “She’s such a smart, pretty girl—why is she still single? She better stop being so picky and … [Read more...]
3 Ways the Strong Black Woman Syndrome Can Kill Your Relationship
Can we talk? Sister to sister? No, I'm not about to tell you that the reason why you're still single (or unhappy in your relationship) is because you're too independent and no man wants you. (That kind of advice is played out in my opinion, and doesn't serve you well.) I am, however, going to tell you that the Strong Black Woman Syndrome is killing you and your … [Read more...]
4 Feelings that Every Black Woman Should Experience in 2016
I know it’s New Year’s resolution time. This usually means that we talk about things that we want to do and want to accomplish. We break out the scissors and the glue and create beautiful vision boards with all of the people, places, and things that we want to meet, go, or purchase. And don’t get me wrong, I’m all for it. I still have my vision board from last year which … [Read more...]
What to do When You Feel Like Giving Up on Love
Over the past year, I’ve coached people all over the world who are ready to give up on love. They tell me things like: I got this crazy message in my inbox…I’m cancelling my subscription to online dating forever! If this relationship doesn’t work out then I’m giving up. I guess I’ll just be single for the rest of my life. I’m scared to trust again. I don’t know what a … [Read more...]
3 Ways To Answer The Question “Why Are You Still Single?”
The holidays can be hard when you're still single. All of the parties and engagement commercials can be a constant reminder that you haven't found The One yet. Your family can also be a constant reminder that you haven't found your perfect match. I know what its like to be sitting around the dinner table with your aunties, cousins, and out of the blue, somebody says,"So, … [Read more...]
4 Signs Your Standards are too High in Dating
You've probably heard people tell you to raise your standards if you want to attract the right man into your life. I'm here to tell you that if you're still single when you don't want to be, the problem may be that your standards are too high! Here are 4 signs your standards are too high in dating: [imagebrowser id=340] … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Tell if He’s Marriage Material
The man you marry will be of your choosing. I know you will choose wisely. The five traits listed here only begin to touch the surface of this subject, yet these are big ticket items. The list is not all inclusive but something to think about as love comes knocking on your door. Your boundaries and standards will determine if he is marriage material. When Mr. Right comes … [Read more...]
Should I Submit to My Boyfriend?
Should I submit to my boyfriend? That's the keyword, boyfriend. This question alone, reminds me of an eye-opening experience with my ex-fiancé. It had only been a few weeks since he'd proposed and I was still floating on air. I was only 20 years old and was a good church girl. I loved the Lord and my Sunday Best outfits followed the dress code of my church. I was very … [Read more...]
4 Reasons Why You Get Stuck with Mr. Wrong and What to Do About It
One of the biggest mistakes I see sistas make is choosing the wrong man. But worse than that, I see many sistas staying with the wrong man. I coach many women who feel torn because they can't make up their mind. Should I stay or should I go? If you feel stuck with the wrong man, let me share 4 reasons why this keeps happening to you and expert advice on what to do to move … [Read more...]
Does Looking For Love Make You Desperate?
Serena Williams' love life was the center of attention on the Wendy Williams show this week. During "Hot Topics," Wendy revealed that Serena stated that she is "desperate for a relationship" and wants to start a family. In short, Serena wants a man and she's not scared to say it! I admire that Serena is putting her intention out there for the world to hear. Unlike many … [Read more...]
Secrets From The Barbershop: 9 Signs A Man Is Ready For A Relationship
Now that I’m Team Natural, I get my hair cut at the barbershop. And sistas, you won’t believe the secrets I get to hear when I’m there! (Yes, the guys talk about relationships when you’re not around). I recently had a chance to talk with one of the guys there about what he’s looking for in a woman. In fact, any time I’m around a professional, high-quality man, I’m always … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Never Do to Their Men in Public
With more women becoming successful on their own terms, it’s easy to get caught up in the definition of Ne-Yo’s “Independent Woman” and forget how to be in a healthy relationship with a man. I grew up not really understanding the male ego or how to deal with it. Relationships were just not something we talked about in my home, so I had to make it up as I went. The problem … [Read more...]
“Where Are All The Available Men?” How to Attract a Man Who is Ready for a Relationship
"Where are all the available men?" "There are no good men in [insert your city here]!" I can't tell you how many times I've heard this from frustrated, single women looking for a relationship-ready man. These successful sistas aren't complaining about the men/women ratios in their particular city; they're fed up with meeting the wrong kind of man! Let me help a sista … [Read more...]
How To Bounce Back From Rejection
The memories came rushing back, but they were bittersweet this time. It had lost its sparkle, even though I was holding it up against the sunlight that was streaming through my room. The joy I once associated with it had turned into numbness, but if I focused really intensely, I could call up the heartbreak and rejection. “Humph,” I said, as I closed the little gray box. It … [Read more...]
Does God Choose the Person You’re Supposed to Marry?
Does God choose the person you're supposed to marry? I used to think so. That false belief led me into unhealthy relationships. Let me explain. I met my ex-fiance at the age of 19. I thought he was "The One." We liked many of the same things and shared many of the same values. To top it all off, when asked by my father why he wanted to marry me, my ex said "The Lord told me … [Read more...]