The holidays can be hard when you’re still single. All of the parties and engagement commercials can be a constant reminder that you haven’t found The One yet.
Your family can also be a constant reminder that you haven’t found your perfect match.
I know what its like to be sitting around the dinner table with your aunties, cousins, and out of the blue, somebody says,“So, why are you still single? When are you gonna get a man? (Or if you have a man, they’ll ask when are you getting married, when are you gonna have kids?)”
Don’t you hate that question? It makes you feel judged. You get tired of having to defend your life and give an answer to every person.
I know you really want to say, “It’s none of your business!” but unless you want your family to clutch their pearls and give you the sideye, I’d like to suggest three ways to handle the “Why are you still single” question this holiday:
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Ms. Marshia says
I respond that I’m still single because I haven’t found anyone that I believe deserves to have me for his wife?
Keith McCain says
Soul cleansing, I would tell them.
Cage says
I am still single because the men that I have met two turned out to be married (unknowingly), but it did not take long to figure it out. One was long distance that turned out to be married but that one took time because he spent a lot of time with me. Others were to immature, looking for sex only because they either had a girlfriend or was not ready for a relationship. Also, I have had to learn to be more open post my divorce. When I am asked why, I am truthful. Any suggestions, lol.
Free Clarke says
A better question would be to ask those who continually ask singles this question what their true motives are? The question has no simple answer, and only serves to elicit anxiety from the person being asked, especially when questioned by those whom they love, like close friends and family. The implication is that there “must” be something that the single is doing wrong – or not doing right – which has then “stuck” being single. Enough with circumspecting this issue! If people really want to help out the singles in their circle, then the best thing that they can do is cultivate healthy relationships with those persons and not constantly question their relationship status.
Anonymous says
Amen, sister!
Step says
Amen, sister!