Dear Dr. Buckingham, I recently got married and I am learning a lot about my new husband. My sister said that she does not like him and expressed that she feels he is abusive toward me. She said that she witnessed him talking to me in a demeaning way. He does talk to me in a “loud” tone and treats me in a controlling manner. My sister was married to an abusive man and told … [Read more...]
How Do I Deal with My Unemployed, Babies’ Father?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been with my babies' father for five years now. Throughout the five years that we have been together, he has never been able to keep a job for more than three months. We have two little boys and I stopped working when I got pregnant the first time. I would look for a job, but when I was working in the beginning of the relationship, he didn't work … [Read more...]
I Love My Fiancé, But I Feel Trapped: What Should I Do?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a 21-year-old single female and I recently got engaged to my high school sweet heart. We are fairly young, but believe that we where meant to be together forever. Our relationship has been rocky for years, mainly because we where trying to find ourselves while also trying to maintain a relationship. My fiancé has a temper and does not express himself very … [Read more...]
Help! Should I Remain Married Although My Husband Says He Doesn’t Love Me Anymore?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married 33 years. My husband says he no longer loves me and is very adamant about it. He has cheated in the relationship a number of times. I'm a Christian and have asked him about counseling and he refuses. I am at my wits end. I am considering divorce. Should I Remain Married Although My Husband Rejects Me? Do you have any advice for lonely … [Read more...]
Can Unwavering Loyalty Change a Cheating and Troubled Partner?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I'm a 32-year-old woman, and I've been involved with a man on and off since I was 16. We were never married. We have two children together. I would say things were great for years until we turned 25. At 25, he fell off track. He lost his job numerous times for his recreational drug use, he stopped taking care of us and we were in a financial ruin. I … [Read more...]
He Cheated, Lied and Even Fathered a Kid, but Now He Wants to Marry Me. Should I?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I just read a few of your articles and thought God must've sent me in your direction. I am currently dealing with infidelity in my relationship and am having a hard time getting through it. Here's my story. I've been dating my now-fiancé for 2.5 years now. We became exclusive a year ago. I just recently found out he had been cheating on me … [Read more...]
Help Please! Should I Stay with My Confused and Cheating Partner?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I’ve been with my partner for 8 years. He asked me to marry him 2 years ago. Shortly after, he began to cheat. We broke up and he moved out. He continued to see the person he cheated on me with, but within a week he said he wanted to get back together. I agreed, even though he got the other person pregnant. When he came back he claimed he was confused … [Read more...]
I Know He’s Cheating but Should I Marry My Disrespectful Fiancé?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I've been with my fiancé for 3 years now. I'm only 19 and he's 22. We have a baby that's 10 months old. My fiancé cheated on me with another girl throughout my pregnancy so I didn't really enjoy it. I feel like he doesn't take me seriously when I ask him serious things. He never gives me an explanation as to why he cheated. He does not say one word and he … [Read more...]
What Can I Do to Make My Marriage Work When I Want to Leave?
Dr. Buckingham, I have been married to my husband for 2 years and we have been together 6 years. In 2013 we decided to move to Louisiana from Chicago because he said it was a better living in Louisiana and he also would be a better father and husband. So we moved with my two kids by different marriages and a daughter I have with him. We moved in with his father, who told us to … [Read more...]
Domestic Violence Month: Real Life Experiences & 8 Signs of Abuse
It could be the face of your next door neighbor, your mother, or the student in your class. Sarah - A bruised arm and a scarf around her neck that hides the scars where he swept her off her feet not because he loved her, but because his anger was out of control and with his bare hands he raised her small body off the floor hands wrapped around her neck. Rita – this was … [Read more...]
I am Sick and Tired: When Is It Good to Move On?
Hello Dr. Buckingham I'm writing because I need some advice. I see others getting valuable advice and I need some too. I'm 34, and with a man that's 57. He has not proposed marriage after six years together. I love him and he loves me, but he is tight with money and sees no way for us to make it with his income. He was three months divorced when we met. He has an estranged … [Read more...]