Sometimes, I put up one heck of a fight and kick fear in the butt, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. As hard as it is to admit, there are times when I’ve allowed fear to win. Fear stops us from doing what we want to do when we want to do it. Fear stops us from being who we are capable of being. Fear stunts our growth and leaves us feeling inadequate and lost. And … [Read more...]
Control, What Does it Really Represent in Your Relationship?
Is control the dominant force driving your romantic relationships, friendships or business partnerships? If so, fear is alive and well in your relationships. People create defense mechanisms, which manifest themselves as control issues or tactics because they fear losing someone or something they value. Control is not at all about the person being controlled. It is, however, … [Read more...]
How the Fear of Rejection Can Stunt Your Growth and Keep You Single
The word says that God is love and His perfect love casts out all fear. We may find ourselves in a fearful place where taking a risk in being rejected keeps us from trying. When it comes to the single life and dating, we have to take these risks every time we go out. It's one thing to try and get shot down, it's another to not try at all out of fear of being shot down. I'm … [Read more...]
Are Single Men Intimidated by Successful, Strong Single Women?
I post relationship questions on Facebook often for my followers and friends to share their opinions and foster healthy dialogue. One question that has come up in one form or another is this: Are single men intimidated by successful and strong single women? From personal experience, men have shown their attraction to me (the flirty looks and hilarious ways to start … [Read more...]
Why Does Rejecting a Date Hurt You?
Not long ago a friend of mine was going through an emotional dilemma with a guy. She was asked out by a coworker and in her commitment to pursue her personal development and not date, she turned down his offer with a message kind of explaining why in over 140 characters. Needless to say, the guy responded “yup” and that was about it after that. Feeling left in ambiguity about … [Read more...]
Ghost-of-Relationships-Past: Fear of Rejection
by Maureen Simmons I stared at my text inbox for what seemed like forever. New relationships are tough. And the older I’ve gotten, the more picky (or nit-picky) I’ve become. I know he’s busy, but really, how long does it take to pluck out 160 characters to respond to a text message? I’ve mentioned it to him--several times-- and his response is always the same. “I respond to … [Read more...]