Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a woman who is married to a man (who is) older than me and I'm the breadwinner. He does work and it's in sales (commission only). It puts me at a disadvantage because we can't seem to move forward because his sales are not consistent and it's making me have to pull the load 85% of the time. Every time I try to talk to him about it, it transpires … [Read more...]
No Female Friends for My Husband, Am I Asking Too Much?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 19 years. He has always had women friendships that he has chosen not to share with me. When I find out about these so call friendships he tells me that it is only a friendship. Related: Here are 3 truths he wants to tell you but may not know how! I know deep down in my heart that has not always been the case. … [Read more...]
How Can I Trust My Wife If She is Dishonest? Does She Deserve to Be Trusted?
Dr. Buckingham, A few years back I discovered my wife having secret phone calls and text messages from an old high school flame. After some extensive research, I found out this guy has been in the background for years. Mind you, my wife is in her mid 30s but has been in contact with this guy since high school. He even asked her to marry him more than once while we were … [Read more...]
Should I Confront My Husband About Having Inappropriate Conversations?
Dear Doctor, I have a little dilemma! A while back I found out that my husband was having inappropriate conversation with another woman. Since then he deleted her number out of his phone, however he's still contacting her but deleting the messages. I know this to be true because I've gone through our phone records. I see the numbers he's texting and I've called the number to … [Read more...]
5 Steps to Having Safety Zone Conversations with Your Mate
Unrealistic expectations, lack of commitment, insurmountable financial debt, and abuse are only a few issues that millions of couples encounter during the course of their relationship. These common yet devastating issues are all symptoms that mask the real cause of why relationships fail. Couples often wonder; what is the secret to maintaining a successful relationship. The … [Read more...]
How Can I Keep my Relationship Together when Our Communication is so Poor?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I have been engaged for almost a year to a 48 year old man. I am 34. He is from Boston, MA and really does not go up there much. But as of lately, he has visited his family because his dad is ill. We have good communication but he decided to visit this past Friday and told me he was coming back Sunday. He has a child from a previous marriage and he was up … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: My Husband Is Sexting with an Ex: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married almost 2 years come May. My husband and I have been butting heads for awhile now. I found out 5 months after we were married that he was entertaining text messages from his ex-girlfriend. It started right after we were married with a "congratulations" on Facebook and progressed into sex-texting. I found out because he slipped and hit his … [Read more...]
My Inconsiderate Boyfriend Proposed; Should I Leave or Stay?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been in an off/on long distance relationship with my boyfriend for about 4 years now. I don't feel that he respects my time or gives me the adequate attention to make our relationship work. At the moment, we just rekindled, but he is back to his old habit which I absolutely detest. He would promise to call and won't do so in the timeframe he … [Read more...]