Marriage should make both spouses feel secure, respected, and most of all loved unconditionally. When insecurity is present in a marriage these ideals are non-existent. So what exactly is insecurity? What does insecurity look like in marriage? Often times, insecurity shows up in the form of jealousy and/or controlling behavior. Insecurity is that feeling of inadequacy, … [Read more...]
Should I Password Protect My Phone or Leave My Marriage?
Dear Dr.Buckingham, I have been married for 12 years with 3 children, though I already had a child before I got married making 4 children. My problem is that I don't have access to my husband's phone. My phone is always open for him so that he can have access to it. I am getting pissed and irritated now because he will wake me up in the middle of the night questioning me about … [Read more...]
No Female Friends for My Husband, Am I Asking Too Much?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 19 years. He has always had women friendships that he has chosen not to share with me. When I find out about these so call friendships he tells me that it is only a friendship. Related: Here are 3 truths he wants to tell you but may not know how! I know deep down in my heart that has not always been the case. … [Read more...]
I Say “No”…Tales of a New Husband
One year ago I said yes to the love of my life, but now 1 year later I’m saying no. Ok, ok, ok before you start saying “I told you so” or “I knew this marriage thing wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be” you need to know that I’m not saying no to my wife or my marriage…I’m saying no to a few other things. If you want to find out more about what those things are then come follow … [Read more...]
Are Your Personal Insecurities Affecting Your Marriage?
I sometimes browse through old photos of my husband and me and reminisce about the special moments each picture represents. In addition to the memories, I also recognize how each of our appearances have slightly transformed over the course of our 15 year marriage. Yes we are older, but we've also both changed physically. There's been weight gain, gray hairs, hair loss, and … [Read more...]