Where are all the good men? If you're a smart, successful, marriage-minded sista, and you've found yourself asking that question out of frustration, I have some good news. According to some experts, once a woman turns 30, there's a 70% chance she's already met the love of her life. Your future husband could be a former classmate, co-worker, or someone you bumped into on your … [Read more...]
Ladies, If He Doesn’t Pass This 9-Question Test, You Can’t Claim He’s “The One”
Once you think you’ve found “the one,” you feel like you are on cloud nine. Knowing that you’ve met the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is amazing! You know how people always say, “I just knew,” when it comes to figuring out if someone is “the one.” Well I think there is some truth to that, but it’s actually a little more involved. I think the man you’re … [Read more...]
Is He the One? How to Tell if You Should Commit
I admit it. I have a problem. I just can’t seem to let things go! “What if I need it,” I reason? “I’ll keep it just in case.” Yes, I am a pack rat, at least when it comes to papers, books and journals. I’ve got boxes and boxes of the stuff to prove it. In the last 10 years, I’ve moved to three different parts of the country and some of the boxes have moved with me each … [Read more...]
Why Do People Say, “It’s Good to be Single?”
We all have that friend. The one in the perpetual revolving door of romantic relationships. You can almost perfectly time the stages of their current escapade. The discovery, which is also known as the “We have so much in common” speech The “This one is so different than all the others” speech The “I don't wanna get ahead of myself, but they could be the one” luncheon, The … [Read more...]
Does God Choose the Person You’re Supposed to Marry?
Does God choose the person you're supposed to marry? I used to think so. That false belief led me into unhealthy relationships. Let me explain. I met my ex-fiance at the age of 19. I thought he was "The One." We liked many of the same things and shared many of the same values. To top it all off, when asked by my father why he wanted to marry me, my ex said "The Lord told me … [Read more...]
Why Every Single Better Know the Difference Between Being Compatible Versus Being Suitable
The first account of marriage in the bible is found with Adam and Eve in Genesis 2:18. The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper SUITABLE for him." (Emphasis mine) God determined it was not good for man to be alone, so He created a woman who was just right for him. Now, in today’s culture we have become much more accustomed to … [Read more...]
God Says They Are the One, Your Family Says They are Not
Dating and relationships can be tough at times. It isn't always easy navigating through all the nonsense and figuring who is truly best for you. There are so many factors to consider, but ultimately the most important factor is God. Getting his guidance on the matter is essential when you're trying to position yourself to receive what is best for you. However, it isn't always a … [Read more...]