Dear Dr. Buckingham, I read your article about a lady whose husband cheated repeated times in their relationship and numerous times with one specific woman before marriage. Luckily for her she found out prior to her wedding day, unfortunately for me I found out only in the second year of my marriage… At first my husband denied it, but when I started stating the facts he … [Read more...]
Is My Marriage Fixable or Have We Grown too Far Apart?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I am writing today because I am at odds with myself contemplating divorcing my husband of 2 years. I am 26 and he is 37. We have been together on and off since high school, 20+ years, but got married in 2012. We had our first child this past February, which left me with a terrible bout of post partum depression and I'm now a stay home mom. Here is where … [Read more...]
What Can I Do to Prevent Porn from Destroying My Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I am a 38-year-old married woman and my husband is 34. My husband and I have 3 beautiful daughters and have been married 11 years. We have had our share of challenges over the years, but honestly despite them, I was feeling good about our relationship up until last week. My husband watches porn in secret on his cell phone despite the fact that I have told … [Read more...]
What Can I Do to Make My Marriage Work When I Want to Leave?
Dr. Buckingham, I have been married to my husband for 2 years and we have been together 6 years. In 2013 we decided to move to Louisiana from Chicago because he said it was a better living in Louisiana and he also would be a better father and husband. So we moved with my two kids by different marriages and a daughter I have with him. We moved in with his father, who told us to … [Read more...]
How Can I Work Through My Wife’s Emotional Roller Coaster After I Cheated
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have been married going on ten years. Two years ago I allowed myself to engage in an affair with someone that works on my former job. Sad to say I did this act while my wife was pregnant with our third child. The affair lasted 10 months and it ended. To put it out there I thought I was being slick thinking no one would find out, especially … [Read more...]
How Do I Remain in a Marriage with My Emotionally Damaged Wife?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have recognized that my wife has past issues that I now have to deal with. They include being cheated on in a four year long relationship, being molested by her step dad (he went to jail and her mother didn't take her or her sister to court to testify; they let him out and he came right back into the house as the man of the house), her real father was a … [Read more...]
What Makes a Wife Good Enough for Love?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been together for 6 years and he will be 27 years old in October (I'm 23 years old). Since April 27, 2014, my husband has been withdrawn and told me that he was not attracted to me. We have two beautiful children together and I adored my husband. I was there for him while he was in the Army and when he got out. He had never deployed … [Read more...]
Can My Marriage Survive Separation?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for 5 of those years. We're now separated since January of 2014. We started having some serious issues about 2 years after we were married (2011) and it just seems that we can't get back on the right track. We're both Christians, and take our faith seriously. That's a major reason we haven't … [Read more...]
My Husband Has An Adulterous Heart: What Should I Do?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 3 years now, but he has been cheating on me even before we got married. When I was pregnant with our daughter, an ex-girlfriend of his was also pregnant by him too. Our babies would have been a few weeks apart but she had a miscarriage. After our daughter was born, he promised that he would stop cheating and I forgave … [Read more...]
What Do You Do When There is No Romance in Your Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married a year now but with him for 4 years and my husband and I have sexual relations maybe once a month. At times it can go for 6 weeks. He is an excellent dad to his children, actually I feel he loves them more than me. He works; he provides for his family and is a great guy. But when it comes to affection, romance and sex its 2 thumbs down. … [Read more...]
Should I Stay in an Unhappy Marriage for the Sake of the Kids?
Dr. Buckingham, I am speaking from the wife's point of view. My husband and I have a similar story to this couple. Some details ring true, my husband had inappropriate text messages with a former neighbor and lied about it when I gave him the opportunity to discuss my suspicions. I have a very strong gut reaction that tells me when something is not right. Earlier in our … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: My Husband Is Sexting with an Ex: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married almost 2 years come May. My husband and I have been butting heads for awhile now. I found out 5 months after we were married that he was entertaining text messages from his ex-girlfriend. It started right after we were married with a "congratulations" on Facebook and progressed into sex-texting. I found out because he slipped and hit his … [Read more...]