There are definitely times when you must speak up and tell your husband the truth, even when it's difficult. When you must reveal a difficult truth, the goal is never to hurt him with that truth. The goal is to be honest without being discouraging. As kids, most of us learned the sayings: “ Honesty is the best policy,” or “If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say … [Read more...]
Husbands, Are You Placing Your Wife on a Pedestal? 4 Gut Checks to See if You’re Slipping
Placing your wife on a pedestal may seem superficial but really it's not. It's a place of honor that is rightfully hers as your wife. That spot became hers and hers alone the moment you both said, “I do.” Don’t take her for granted, celebrate the crown of glory God has given you. Put her on a pedestal in your heart. A pedestal is a high place that is used to support and show … [Read more...]
Wives, You Need More than a G-Rated Marriage; 5 Small, Sexy Tricks to Try
Wives, G-Rated is good in your marriage, but be sure to try out rated PG, PG13, R and X. Your marriage is between husband and wife and no one else. Do what makes you feel happy and excited. Let your husband experience the best of you in this area. The romantic sexual side of your marriage is so important but can be neglected due to stress and busy schedules. Whether married … [Read more...]
7 Powerful Scriptures that Every Husband Should Read
When you're looking for guidance in life, the Bible is always a great place to start. And it's also a good place for men who are looking for marital direction. Scriptures are filled with positive words of encouragement for husbands. They will help to keep you on track, set a foundation for your marriage and give you a target to set reachable goals. There are several great … [Read more...]
5 Communication Tactics that Could Destroy Your Marriage, #5 Is the Deadliest
A common complaint from married folks is lack of communication with our spouse. However, we communicate with our spouses all day every day. Talking, arguing and even the silent treatment is a form of communication. It’s not all good communication, but what we say, do, don’t say and don’t do conveys messages. According to Merriam Webster the definition of communication is … [Read more...]
Listen Up, Singles. These 5 Decisions Are WAY More Important Than the Decision To Get Married
The decision to get married is one of the most important decisions you will make in your entire life. Don’t you agree? I do. It was a decision I made with great care, and I am so grateful that after almost eight years, I still feel like I married the right guy. But as important as that decision was, I can’t sit here and tell you that it’s the most important decision I have … [Read more...]
Unhealed Wounds Still Causing Trouble? Here Are 4 Reasons How
It is impossible to go through life and not be emotionally wounded by something. When your physical body hurts, you seek medical attention. When your emotional heart is wounded, it also requires attention. Sayings like "get over it," "move on" and "things will get better with time" are not helpful when your spirit has been damaged. Healing is a process. You have to take the … [Read more...]
Trouble Begets Trouble, So It’s Time to Get Rid of THAT Friend—And You Know It
Many of us know someone who is in a troubled marriage. You may not know how it got to that point, but you may have a front seat to the bad behavior going on in the relationship. But if you think that friend has no influence on your marriage, then think again. I want to encourage you not to allow other people’s marriage problems to infect your marriage. The bad habits and … [Read more...]
Sneaking Around with Benjamin and Grant Again? Financial Infidelity is Still Cheating
Yeah, you've been hitting the town with Benjamin and his friends again, hoping your husband doesn't find out. No, you're not having several sordid, lustful affairs with some guys named Benjamin, Grant, Jackson and Lincoln. The characters in question are the namesakes of the bills you keep secretly withdrawing from your savings without your husband's knowledge. Your sneaking … [Read more...]
Work It Until It’s Wonderful; Ending the Myth of the White Picket Fence Theory
Marriage is wonderful, and it can resemble the legendary white picket fence lifestyle. However, the lie of it all is that it just happens. Two people get together and because they are madly in love, the fantasy is that they will get married and live happily ever after. It just doesn’t work that way. Folks who believe this lie are devastated when “madly in love” becomes “I … [Read more...]
Wives Do You Know How to Recognize and Use Your Power?
Wives have been known for being the ones who hold the family together. Have you ever wondered how women do this? I believe it is because of the power inside them. Wives, we must recognize our power and use it accordingly. A wife’s power comes knowing who she is. She is confident and comfortable with the woman she has become. That power allows her to tackle any situation she … [Read more...]
Is Church a Safe Place to Talk About Your Marriage Challenges?
Church is thought to be a safe place. A place of learning, peace and spiritual guidance. However, is it a safe place to talk about your marriage challenges? Churches nowadays have specific ministries for married people. There are ministries set up specifically to meet the needs of husbands and wives. They usually offer monthly or quarterly marriage workshops and various … [Read more...]
Don’t Go to Bed Angry – Your Marriage Can’t Take It
Did your parents ever tell you not to go to bed angry? My mother instilled this in me. Whether an old wives’ tale or a biblical adage, there is something to it. Every couple has disagreements but you don’t have to go to bed angry. It took me years to realize this. Sure I knew the saying but that doesn’t mean I followed it. It can be a challenge to get yourself together in … [Read more...]
4 Reasons You Probably Need to Reset Your Marriage to its Default Settings
Does it seem like your marriage is off track and not where it should be? Do you feel like there is no communication? Do things just not feel right in your marriage? Sounds like you need to reset it to its default settings. What is the default settings? Glad you asked. Do you recall a time that your computer or laptop starts acting funky, and you don’t know what’s wrong … [Read more...]
Should You Know Everything About Your Mate?
Every person, every psychologist and every marriage counselor has an opinion on what makes a good marriage. Can we agree that part of a good marriage includes love, honesty and openness? However, does this mean should you know everything about your mate? Is it necessary to know all that happened in their life before they met you? Is it realistic to know your mate inside and … [Read more...]