So you’ve cheated? Does it mean your marriage is doomed for divorce? Absolutely not! And by the way, I'm speaking from experience! Now don’t get it twisted; it does mean it’s time to “Man-Up” meaning to “toughen up” or in my Spike Lee voice…“Do the right thing!” Tell your wife about your affair. Immediately, I’m reminded of the scripture 1 Corinthians 10:12, "If you think … [Read more...]
Surviving Infidelity: 3 Reasons Your Spouse Can’t Move Past Your Affair
Someone was recently sharing with me that she was in a relationship where her husband cheated, and what she did to help in surviving infidelity. So, she decided to cheat as well and now, they are struggling to get past the situation. Learn more about this woman's story and what exactly happens in a marriage after a spouse cheats. Surviving Infidelity | Get Better, Not Even … [Read more...]
My Husband Committed Adultery Twice and Had Two Kids: Has My Marriage Run Its Course?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 21 years. My husband had two affairs early in our marriage that resulted in 2 love children by different women. I decided to stay for our 3 children. My husband has to pay support for these children and I had a lot of anger about having to struggle. I had to be the one who always worked multiple jobs so that my 3 kids did not … [Read more...]
My Wife Cheated. Will Being Realistic About It Save or End My Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham My wife and I have been married for seven years and together for 13. I found out last a few months ago that she has had multiple sex partners since we have been married and before. In all my previous relationships I was the one cheating. In this one I have not, although she has complained about me watching porn. Our families are blended. This is my … [Read more...]
A Right Way and A Wrong Way: How to Tell Your Spouse About Your Affair
There will never be a “perfect time” to confess your affair to your spouse. But there will always be a right way and wrong way in which to do it. And we're certainly not giving you these tips on how to confess so that you can go out and repeat the same mistakes again. And these tips are not going to get you off the hook either...you have some serious consequences to … [Read more...]
My Husband Impregnated a Hood Rat: Can Our Marriage Survive His Deception?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 20 years. We have two daughters. My husband cheated on me with someone that I believe has low standards (Hood Rat). I found out 4 years ago because she sent me a nasty letter giving me details of their sexual encounters. I was crushed! (The man) who I thought was my best friend had become my enemy, not my husband. He … [Read more...]