Dear Dr. Buckingham, Where do I begin? I have been married for 19 years and I don't know where my marriage stands! At year 12, my husband was arrested then later sentenced to 10 years! Before his sentence, while out on bail, we both got jobs and lease to purchase a home. The marriage was strong and loving! During his sentence (he did 5 1/2 years) so much happened: I lost … [Read more...]
5 Things that Will Ruin Your Ability to Communicate with Your Spouse
When I started dating my husband years ago, I remember getting so mad when he didn’t feel like discussing an issue that came up. I would keep asking questions and pushing the issue until he said something. The thing is, that rarely got me anywhere. He would get annoyed and shut down even more, and I would get angrier and ask more questions—until I realized I was talking to … [Read more...]
No Knocking the Boots for Me: How Do I Survive in a Sexless Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I need your valuable professional advice for the situation I am in. I got married five years back and after a year I got divorced. One of the reasons for the divorce was there was no sex in our relationship. He ejaculated even before insertion. Our marriage didn't work out. After 3 years, I got remarried. It's been just 5 months. My husband is a … [Read more...]
Should I Confront My Husband About Having Inappropriate Conversations?
Dear Doctor, I have a little dilemma! A while back I found out that my husband was having inappropriate conversation with another woman. Since then he deleted her number out of his phone, however he's still contacting her but deleting the messages. I know this to be true because I've gone through our phone records. I see the numbers he's texting and I've called the number to … [Read more...]
How Can I Keep my Relationship Together when Our Communication is so Poor?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I have been engaged for almost a year to a 48 year old man. I am 34. He is from Boston, MA and really does not go up there much. But as of lately, he has visited his family because his dad is ill. We have good communication but he decided to visit this past Friday and told me he was coming back Sunday. He has a child from a previous marriage and he was up … [Read more...]
My Wife Is Insecure: What Can I Do to Make Our Marriage Work?
Greetings Dr. Buckingham, I just read a post of yours and had to send you an email about my concerns. I am a married late 30 year old with two kids by my wife and have an older son from a previous relationship. My concern is similar to the post "my-ex does not know we are married". I want to thank you for sharing advice to our community. My concern is that--in my opinion- … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: My Husband Is Sexting with an Ex: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married almost 2 years come May. My husband and I have been butting heads for awhile now. I found out 5 months after we were married that he was entertaining text messages from his ex-girlfriend. It started right after we were married with a "congratulations" on Facebook and progressed into sex-texting. I found out because he slipped and hit his … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Should I See a Therapist or My Pastor?
Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been having marital problems for several years now and I am ready to throw in the towel. We continue to argue over simple things and end up frustrating each other. We pray for each other and together. We have talked to the pastor several times and have received some helpful guidance. Things get better for a while, but we continue to argue … [Read more...]
Lure Your Marriage Back From Destruction
From time to time quite a few marriages experience periods of not seeing eye to eye, feelings of frustration and thoughts of defeat . Sometimes couples can clearly see the route that lead down that undesirable road. Other times, circumstances build up until they can't even pinpoint exactly what brought them there. As a result, hurt, disappointment and wanting to call it quits … [Read more...]