I don’t know how many times this has happened. My husband will be talking with someone and suddenly find himself at a loss for words. He knows what he wants to say, but he’s not quite sure how to say it. Then, I will pipe in and finish the thought, phrase, or sentence for him. We look at each other, nodding in agreement that we’re both on the same page. Some who don't know us … [Read more...]
6 Things You Blame On Your Kids That Are Really Your Fault
We all love our kids. They add joy to our lives in ways that no one else can. But as much as we love them, doesn’t it seem like kids get blamed for a lot? Listen, I am guilty of it myself. My youngest is 3 and I am still blaming these kids for the extra weight on my body. I need to stop. I’ve had 3 whole years to pull it together. So why do we play the blame game with our … [Read more...]
How You Feel About Paying Your Bills Can Reveal a Surprising Truth About Your Relationship with Money
Over the last month, I had a number of bills to pay; some were related to my personal life and others were related to The Frugal Feminista. I realized that despite having the money to pay the bills, I felt a sense of tension in my belly when they came. I felt a sense of worry. I even felt a bit upset that I had to pay them. When I caught myself catching an attitude, I … [Read more...]
Fatherhood Should Change You
The fatherhood instinct is real. To look upon your offspring and see yourself in their face, in their expressions, in their actions, and ultimately in their interpretation of the world is a daunting thing to come face to face with - every single day. And that's why true fatherhood is done with every interaction a father is lucky enough to have with their children. If you … [Read more...]
Taking Responsibility Starts with These 3 Steps
As a coach, each client I work with at some point is going to have to take responsibility for their contribution to every situation, good or bad. We see TV shows where coaches and counselors talk about taking ownership of what we have done in our past which may cause detriment to where we are today. I think it’s important to note, especially when dealing with relationships, … [Read more...]
I Am an Over Protective Parent and Not Ashamed to Say It
I am over protective when it comes to my children. That is a fact. I am not ashamed to say it and I don’t care who knows it. I am the mother of 3 sons and 1 daughter. I was just as protective over my sons who are grown now, as I am now with my daughter. I’ve had people express anger towards me over this because they take it personal when I decline invitations on behalf of … [Read more...]
A Real Father Isn’t a Babysitter
I heard someone say in passing that a child’s father was going to babysit so the mother could run errands. Babysit . . . really? When did the actual parent of a child turn into a babysitter? Not only is this flat-out wrong, but it’s also demeaning. Dads do so much more than babysit. In my home, babysitters are a necessity. I appreciate the care and attention they give my … [Read more...]
3 Times When “It Just Happened” Isn’t An Acceptable Answer
"It just happened!" Raise your hand if you are tired of hearing these three words yet. Oh no volunteers? Well, keep reading anyway! The more I coach clients this continues to be a consistent theme.... That is, until I break it down! I believe that many of the issues that arise and grow in dating and relationships are rooted in the lack of accountability we take for our actions. … [Read more...]
Finding My “No”: Teaching Kids Responsibility For Themselves
Sunday night around 9 p.m. I went to put my son to bed (late) and my 12-year-old daughter said, "By the way, I have some clothes that need to be washed. I'm going to put them downstairs in the laundry room." Let's step back a little bit. I work in PR for a school that had its reunion weekend that same weekend. Classes celebrating reunions from the Class … [Read more...]