Dear Dr. Buckingham I’ve been married for two years to a wonderful man. I love him very much. I make significantly more money than my husband, which isn't a problem for me, but it seems to be a problem for him. I am a pretty low-maintenance wife. I don't require a lot to be happy, but my husband does not buy me anything. I'm not even sure he thinks about buying me anything. … [Read more...]
People Think My Fiancé is Self-Centered, But is He Bad Enough to Reconsider Marrying?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am dating this guy who appears to be wonderful. He recently proposed to me, and I accepted. We are both successful individuals and are doing well professionally. I noticed that we are somewhat different when it comes to our personalities. I am more introverted, and he is more extroverted. I prefer to take the backseat, and he prefers to be upfront. This … [Read more...]
5 Signs that Poor Communication is Killing Your Relationship
Somewhere deep inside of us we understand the value of good communication. After all, communication is what allows us to have some of the great things in life such as our relationships, careers and spiritual life. Yet, many marriages fail. When couples are asked why? They often site poor communication as the main culprit. According to national statistics poor communication is … [Read more...]
Singles, 10 Ways to go from Selfish to Selfless
It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. Singles, we have the misconception we often feed, that we can be some selfish creatures. Some books and other people will tell you that being single is a stage of enlightenment and a time to only be "taking care of me" and other clichés that come with false independence. That kind of thinking fits very well with how … [Read more...]
How do I Serve Her Better by Putting Her First?
If you haven’t read the book, “The Five Love Languages,” by Dr. Gary Chapman, I suggest it as excellent reading to continue to grow a healthy relationship, or help to heal a broken relationship. While it takes more than a book to build our relationship, one thing is certain, there is action required to serve another human being. There is no way around it. Our narcissistic … [Read more...]
Good Communication May Exist But Selfishness Trumps All
How important is good communication to your relationship? Very…right? Researchers have put a lot of stock in couples learning and using good communication skills. John Gottman, a relationship-research legend, has published over 190 research papers and authored 40 books on marriage and divorce. He has identified 9 specific skills (4 Don’ts and 5 Do’s ) to help couples … [Read more...]