by Coretta J. Perkins,
On the journey of life we need girlfriends. In every season of life girlfriends are necessary and sojourn with us through it all. Here are four types of girlfriends that are essential.
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by Coretta J. Perkins,
On the journey of life we need girlfriends. In every season of life girlfriends are necessary and sojourn with us through it all. Here are four types of girlfriends that are essential.
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nylse says
the pearls..yes; it seems i’ve been blessed with a few pearls myself and it seems i’m becoming a pearl myself.
Monae Everett says
This is a great article. We women really need each other. I am looking to add some friends to fill the void of a couple of categories. Well written!
Tanea says
Love this!
Tlo says
Great article indeed and very true!
Donelle says
What do you suggest for a 50yo woman who is lacking friends? I am NOT proud to say that I allowed my husbands jealously & control issues, to stop me from developing ANY adult TRUE friendships in our 30 yr marriage. He always disapproved of ANYONE who I tried to befriend, for various reasons. He even would sabotage relationships with couples who we became friends with, whenever us wives started to grow a greater friendship. I submerged my life into raising children, work, church, & supporting his coaching activities. And now that we are empty nesters I’m desiring some friendships, but find it difficult to develop them at this stage in my life. I am more of an introvert, and slow to warm up to people , but in work settings I’m always told,how friendly & bubbly and east to talk to. I am also very cautious of more one side relationships/friendships. The patterns if have seen , is that people are drawn to me for my listening skills, empathy & desire to help. But then that’s all there is, it seems one sided. And I fear keep giving & giving and getting, little or nothing back? I know relationships/ friendships go through phases of more reliance on one verses the other, but I also feel that should not be forever. I done 30 years of that and it left me, empty, and now discarded, I don’t want to appear jaded ,but I NOW know that relationship dynamic is not a healthy one. How do I develop the kinds of friendships I so desire, with all these warning signs flowing through my head & heart. I’ve been building my relationship with Christ Jesus as never before. I have always been a Christian, and God fearing,but through this tough life changing period I want to do it right!
Coretta J Perkins says
Dear Donelle,
Forgive my late reply! Believe me that you are not alone in this stage of your life. I had the pleasure of visiting several gladiators, historians, and pearls this past summer. The one thread in all of our conversations was how lonely we all were in our everyday lives. So many missed the days of having conversations, lunches, and free time to just catch up. But the reality is life – with its many demands, schedules, and responsibilities that leave us little time for fellowship. I applaud your relationship with Christ as a cornerstone.
I know that pursuing and establishing adult relationships can be challenging, but it’s necessary that you keep trying. I have found that many relationships are created and grow through shared interests and hobbies. What kinds of things do you like to do? Another key component is your willingness to be vulnerable with others. Most people look like they have it all together, but often don’t. When we are vulnerable we let our guards down and show people that we have plenty in common to build on. I’m sure this is hard to do in your current situation because of your husband, but it’s not impossible. All things are possible with Christ, and maybe he can learn to share you with others. When we are fulfilled individually our spouses benefit as well.
Be Blessed,
cjp