As women, the loud ticking of our biological clocks sometimes causes us to make some really dumb decisions when it comes to the men we choose to be our mates. I am no exception. Having reviewed past relationships to figure out why they didn’t work out, I realized that I made poor decisions with the men I dated because they were a reflection of how I felt about myself at the time. I was able to recognize my foolishness (and theirs) for what it was: a lack of self-worth that allowed me to settle for less than I deserved. Although I haven’t dated all of these types of men, I certainly know people who have, and now know to steer clear immediately once I see any of these characters coming my way:
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I’ve dated about 3 to 4 of these men, boring to say the least!
Divorced men with kids. That’s the best way to make sure you and yours are never #2.
When it comes to divorced men, I think it depends on a number of factors, including the kind of relationship he has with his -ex as well as his children. If it’s rocky on either front, then you should definitely proceed with caution.
Great information so true you are not bashing males just being to reality the truth.
Glad you found it helpful. As someone who’s dated several of the men on this list, I can now appreciate a good man when I see one.
Julian I agree. But know matter how men are women are still attracted to these type of men. I feel like relationship are all about changing. Also about working on strength and weaknees. I man can have all the quality a women can want and still in up with her heart broken or divorce court. I hope this site never post what type of women men need to stay away from. Because all men are attracted to tge physical first!
If you’re with someone who you’re growing together with, that’s a great thing. It means that you’re both contributing to the relationship and the changes you’re going through are good for both of you. If, however, you’re with someone who all they want to do is change YOU and they don’t see the anything to work on in themselves—that’s a red flag. As for the attraction, women are the same way. That’s why first impressions (and second and third…) do matter. The way a person grooms themselves is an indicator (not the only one, though) of how they feel about themselves. But after the initial physical attraction, there’s GOT to be something more substantive to make the relationship last.
I agree. When certain people see “good men” they think that means a man with a BMW, 6 figure salary, and a masters and no children . That’s not the case. There are good men out there in every walk of life. Find one that’s right for you in your life
@Madinah – I’m sorry but I totally disagree with your comment. “When certain people see “good men” they think that means a man with a BMW, 6 figure salary, and a masters and no children”. A man of this quality sounds good to me, because he compliments the things that I have accomplished and he understands my drive and lives the same lifestyles that I live. I have dated men who weren’t as educated as me, didn’t make as much money and me and those ones who had out of wedlock children, because I was testing the water in my mid twenties trying to give them a chance and it was disastrous each time. The uneducated ones, felt uncomfortable with coming to work events and work social events I had to attend, the ones who made less money were intimidated by my house, BMW, and my closet full of designer clothes/shoes, and the ones with children income was less than favorable because of their child support payments and it was too much drama to have to deal with a man who had children with someone they constantly argued with. Therefore a man who loves the Lord, makes six figure, educated, drives a BMW, own a home sounds good to me.
Great article. Things to remember. I am 27 and dated just about all of these types in this short stint of time LOL. Anyway, I am in a different place now, and this serves as a great reminder.
Divorced women with kids. Stay clear of them, never be their #2.