I don’t think my life will end when I get married. I don’t think it will begin either. Perhaps the union will be the sequel, the to be continued or the happily ever after to my current single state of mind. I don’t live my life hoping and waiting for a husband. Yes, it would be nice if he comes riding in on a horse or in an environmentally friendly car, but he won’t bring happiness. I already have a smile on my face. Maybe he’ll turn it into a school girl grin that shows all my teeth. For now, I’m enjoying my journey. Relationships, and marriages, are hard work. So it’s nice to exhaust my energy on myself for now. Before I jump the broom, I hope to jump for joy when I complete my Before Marriage Bucket List. I urge all singles to create a checklist of their own. Feel free to steal some of my ideas!
1. Take a Trip
Subscribe to a deal a day website, and you score an affordable vacation package for one. Travelling solo creates a high level of independence and self-reliance. Just make sure you select a safe city, and let your loved one know where you’ll be when you escape the daily grind. If you don’t want to travel abroad by yourself, select somewhere in another time zone. Or drive across the country, sightseeing along the way. If you can’t afford to go away, live in a hotel for the weekend. Then, relish in being able to pick a vacation spot without putting it up to a vote!
2. Break the Bank
Not literally. But splurge on something special. Purchase a big ticket item, like a designer purse or a surround sound system. And enjoy not checking in with your partner regarding the purchase.
3. Make a Mess
Don’t make the bed in the morning. Leave your makeup or shaving products out on the sink. And let the laundry pile up another day before you want to go to happy hour not the laundry mat. There’s no one to nag you about following the cleaning schedule.
4. Take up a Hobby
Swing by a club, pick up a paintbrush or beat a drum. Discover a new talent or find out one doesn’t exist like you thought. Try something new, and learn something new about yourself. Single or married, you should explore and establish your own individual interests.
5. Get a Makeover
Rock that Halle Berry cut you’ve been admiring for years. Dye your hair bright blonde or perhaps purple. Get another tattoo or piercing. You will always have your individuality, but when you’re single, you don’t have to ask for your partner’s opinion or get unsolicited feedback.
6. Adopt a Child
You don’t have to be married to be a mother or a father. Don’t wait on a ring to give a child a home if adoption has always been your dream. Give a young person a happy home and lots of love, no matter how many people are living under the roof.
7. Overcome a Fear
Are you too scared to quit your job, start a business, relocate to another state, tell someone you love him/her, jump out of an airplane or climb a mountain? Look fear in the face, and step out on faith. You will be a stronger, wiser person on the other side of scared.
Hey BMWK–What would you add to the list?
Fab article! I agree 100%…
Love yourself and give love to your partner.
You cannot give what you do not have.
Remember God is love, if you do not love
You do not have God
I love this bucket list! It has given me a new perspective on being single.
I’m glad I’ve done everything on my bucket list before I tied the knot! I’m still looking forward in adopting a child by putting him/her in school! GREAT!!!! 😀
I’ve achieved several on my list. Disclaimer: I’m divorced and do intend on being married again.
1. Rebuild my self-esteem. If I don’t love myself, I can’t love someone else. Well, today, I’m proud to say that I love myself.
2. Travel. I’m doing that. Sometimes alone, sometimes with others.
3. Start a blog. Did that (shadowsaside.blogspot.com) and am enjoying writing.
4. Paint my house. I’ve never gotten to decorate an entire home in my adult life without considering another opinion. I’ll take this opportunity, because who knows? It might be the only time I have it (and I’m okay with that, because I do intend on being married again). I’m going to start painting this week!
5. Take up photography. I started a course this semester; I’m almost finished. 🙂 Looking for another course for the fall 2013. 🙂
The longer I’m single, the more the list grows. I’m okay with that. The single life has its ups and downs; so does marriage. I’m going to enjoy this chapter of my life, just like I plan to enjoy the next chapter of my life whenever it begins.
Life is good; God is great!
Excellent article. You and I must have quite a bit in common because my list of 5 things to do before marriage is included in your 7. I wrote this list almost a year ago and had not had the guts to follow through, but I turn 30 this year and I have decided to take serious action, I’ve written a somewhat detailed plan on how to go about things and a timeline to help me achieve that. The day before I turn 31 I want to go back to that list taped on the inside of my cupboard door and joyfully tick everything off as ‘complete’.
Great list, I have most of these on my list, but also have, to lose weight, work on being more content and truly loving myself, becoming more financially stable, and networking more. I find that it’s difficult trying to accomplish things on my bucket list because it’s so hard for me to get out of my comfort zone, and I get so frustrated sometimes about that. I hoped that I would have accomplished more than I have, now that I am in my early 30’s but I think my main problem is worrying about what others think too much. It also doesn’t help that I had to move back in with my mom due to financial reasons and my mom is super clingy which makes it hard sometimes to do some of the things that I want to do. I ultimately would love to save up enough to purchase a house because I feel like I really need the freedom so that I can truly live my life the way that I want. I’m working on it, but it feels like a slow process.
Awesome! Except #6 will come after my husband does:-)
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