If you give your wife a compliment, she’ll smile and remember how good you make her feel.
When she remembers how good you make her feel, she will go to work with a little pep in her step.
If she has a little pep in her step, she will be more apt to be in a good mood and get her work done accordingly.
By being satisfactory at work, she will get kudos from her boss and she will remember this day as a good day.
Knowing she’s having a good day will carry her all the way home, where she will encounter the husband who gave her the compliment.
When she encounters the husband who gave her a compliment, she will greet him warmly and they will have a great evening.
If they have a great evening, she will go to bed happy. And he will go to bed happy. *wink*
And everyone will be happy.
See, I don’t think husbands realize their power in the household. A simple word of encouragement, a surprise hug or a phone call during the day to simply say, “I appreciate you” goes so far with a woman. In one of my earlier posts, “Sometimes a Man Just Needs to Hear,” I wrote:
We all want that validation that our spouse *sees* us, that they understand that what we do every day is not easy, but they appreciate us making that effort. Don’t get so caught up in the day-to-day business that you miss out on little opportunities to connect.
I was talking about husbands in that instance, but it’s true for women especially. There’s nothing more pertinent than making sure everything is running smoothly in your marriage and it starts with our words. Fellas, try one of these on for size:
“I love that dress on you, baby.” Bet you she’ll pull it out whenever she wants to feel pretty.
“That was some of the best {insert food here} I ever tasted.” Wipe your mouth for effect. Bet you she’ll walk with an extra strut in her step.
“Honey, why don’t you head on out and take a couple hours for yourself? I’ll take care of the kids. You work really hard. You deserve a break.” She’ll zoom out of the house so fast it’ll make your head spin. But when she gets back, she’ll be looking for a way to return the favor.
So remember: Dip your tongue in honey before you speak to your wife. It’s the first step in creating a happy home.
Ladies, what’s the best compliment you’ve ever received? What words or phrases from your spouse will make your whole day?
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I love the third one — to me, that’s one of the best ways to show care for a wife’s well-being.
“Dip your tongue in honey before you speak to your wife”. Wonderfull words of wisdom for any situation, any time and any place!
We’ve known each other since we were 17 & 18 – now we are 43 & 44. When I was looking at old pictures recently, back in my slimmer days – he told me that that he likes my body better now than before … just makes me feel good to know that he finds me attractive just as I am and doesn’t look to how I was in the past.
This is so true. I always tell my husband,”foreplay is all day.” Not just for the bedroom. I love this article. Kudos!!
Good stuff right here!
I remember when my ex told me I never get anything right the first time which is why he never takes me anywhere. Needless to say, after everything that had already happened, those words had destroyed me and I started plotting my departure. Fellas, you all have no idea how much your kind words mean to us and will get you much further in having your needs met.
I understand the sentiment, and I agree. But I also see how this article could be interpreted as back-handed advice about how to ensure that you get sex whenever you want it. “Compliment her… she’ll feel good all day … you’ll feel good all night.” Almost like it’s all about an ulterior motive. How about complimenting her because you love her, you actually mean those things, and it doesn’t matte? whether or not you get sex out of the deal? I don’t know. Just food for thought.
The point of the article was to uplift wives, to have her feel loved and appreciated. To have a husband’s words be on her mind all day, helping her deal with any stress she might encounter. Sex is not the focal point, but hey, there’s probably more sex going on in a home where the husband and wife are complimenting and praising one another. That’s just a fact 🙂
Does it really matter? Married life is ultimately about cause and effect. You’re one anyway. If it yeilds sex, technically it helps both partners as a unit of one. FYI! Sex is as important to men, as affirmations are to women. In the end you’re both giving and receiving what pleases the other.