You have surely seen #CoupleGoals all over social media. The images that accompany the hashtag are of couples being happy in love, or so it seems. Some, unfortunately, look really amazing on the outside, but may not be worth admiring from the inside. Love can really look good on people and can make others desire that for themselves. The real goal is that our relationships actually feel good on the inside, and not just appear to look good on the surface. The goals that couples should aim to achieve cover a few major areas. In this article, we will explore three ways you and your spouse can become real couple goals.

Three Ways You and Your Spouse Can Become Real Couple Goals 

In This Article: 

• Real Couple Goals 1: Make Your Spiritual Walk the Foundation
• Real Couple Goals 2: Bring Out the Best In One Another
• Real Couple Goals 3: Keep It Real

All couples should have goals. And not just any old goals, but goals that will set them up for a successful marriage. That doesn’t happen by accident. What you want for your relationship is definitely within your reach. It’s a matter of setting clear expectations and a vision for the relationship that both you and your partner can agree upon. That vision could include a number of things like effective communication, rules for disagreeing agreeably, and the level of commitment you both are willing to contribute to the relationship. Whatever you deem important to your relationship, it is necessary to have a conversation so you both are on the same page.  Here are the three that will help get you started on becoming real couple goals. 

#CoupleGoals 1: Make Your Spiritual Walk the Foundation

A spiritual walk is the foundation of a strong marriage. Now, more than ever, faith is needed. A marriage without a strong spiritual foundation can quickly crumble. Christian marriages thrive when, during difficult times especially, they have a constant that exists in their marriage. Scripture reminds us that God loves marriage. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 states that “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor; If either of them falls down one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lies down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”  This scripture reminds couples that they are better and stronger together, especially when they allow God to be the center of their union.  

#CoupleGoals 2: Bring Out the Best in One Another

Healthy couples are good for one another.  They each bring something necessary to the relationship. There’s nothing better than having a spouse who supports you and yet also challenges you to show up and be the best version of yourself. Couples who can lift one another up with positive words and affirmations definitely know what it means to set their relationship on the right track and keep it there. There are a few specific ways to bring out the best. First, praise your partner for their strengths. In relationships, it feels good to know your spouse sees you and notices your contributions. Next, be patient with their flaws and assist them in making adjustments, if that’s needed. Finally, set the example you want to see in your relationship. Let your actions show your spouse how to treat you and how to be a good partner.  

#CoupleGoals 3: Keep it Real

All of those images we see in those hashtags don’t necessarily show what really happens in a relationship. It’s easy to smile for the camera and make your relationship look perfect. But the truth is no relationship is perfect. Couples fight, if they are human, they make up and then fight some more. It’s natural, when human emotions are involved, to disagree and make mistakes occasionally. This is how couples grow and get better together. They stumble, get up, and learn from their mistakes. This goal is all about recognizing where you and your spouse can be better and learning to strive for achieving better. Marriage is a serious commitment and some days it’s not easy. We are better when we don’t try to pretend our challenges don’t exist. You get tired, your spouse gets tired, and you sometimes need time just for yourself, that’s the reality of marriage and that is absolutely okay. Be sure to keep it real, but also find ways to persevere through those challenging days. 

You and your spouse can surely reach couple goal status just by being mindful of what you both bring into the relationship. Remember to be led by your spiritual walk, to be good to one another and bring out the best in each other, and to always keep it real. When your marriage doesn’t feel good, speak up, and work at improving it, together. Also, remember to be kind, gentle, and loving, as often as possible. These are just a few of the ways you and your spouse can be #couple goals.

BMWK, how do you and your spouse strive to become real couple goals?