Earlier today we brought you what some are calling the World’s Greatest Wedding Proposal but now we’re bringing you just the opposite. What happens when you go for a public display of affection for the proposal but the object of your affection is not a willing participant? Watch the video below to find out. Here on the site we often talk about communication and it’s importance prior to getting married. Through that communication you should have a good hunch on whether the love of your life will agree or not and if you’re not sure keep it private.
Did you do a public proposal? When you proposed did you already know your spouse would say yes? Is it fair to the person that you’re proposing to when you put them on the spot in front of nightclubs and basketball arenas?
Reginald Williams says
After watching this video my initial thought was that this proposal “WAS NOT” geniune. The club, the dude singing – for me not a good look for a proposal. And w/i the proposal I heard the dude say “I HAVE to have you.” That too was problematic for me.
This appears to me had she said yes it would have been a marriage for all the wrong reasons, and a marriage that would have lived in turmoil.
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Lamar says
Good observation and I think you hit it on the head. I really commend the lady for not giving into the pressure because it would have been much easier to just say yes even if she switched it up later.
Yana says
I don’t know yall, I kinda think I would have just said yes to save his face and then break him down easy behind closed doors. Even if I didn’t love dude I am sure I would care enough about him to protect his feelings.
P.S. does it make me shallow that I was dying to get a glimpse of the ring, lol!
Reginald Williams says
ROTFL. Maybe it was the ring that made her say no – I’m just joking
Anonymous says
I agree. He said, “I can’t go back and change the things I have done.” Which means he has done some hurtful and unfair things to her. How you treat a partner starts before the marriage from the minute you start dating them. I think he is trying to use the marriage proposal to try and win her back and that is NOT what marriage is for. Your relationship should be solid before the s/he gets down on one knee. Because news flash and I think she knows it- marriage doesn’t change people.
I don’t know though. I am ambivalent. I might have said yes to save his face, but also depends on what he has done in the past and if I felt like he was genuinely putting his heart out there.
Shonuff15 says
Did he consider her feelings when he did what he was doing? Did he care how she looked to others in public?
Martha A. Snowden says
I think that she did right in saying no but I also think she could have tried to stop him from further embarrassment by telling himin his ear that she would not marry him. However having said that after she said no he continues to pressure her so maybe it would not have changed anything.
Denise says
If you read her lips, she asks him discreetly to get up. Someone clued me in on the back story, and apparently dude had been dipping on her for quite some time (you could get that much from him saying, “I can’t go back in time and change anything I’ve done”). Eh, I wouldn’t have tried too much harder than she did to save some embarrassment. He embarrassed himself, but more so he embarrassed her by putting her in such an awkward position, knowing full well what was going on. He tried to bully her into forgiving/marrying him. Just childish on his part.
Harriet R. Williams says
He should have read the signals she was giving him…side eyes, rolled eyes, teary eyes, then blank eyes. If he had seen it, he would not have continued with that contrived proposal. But because he didn’t, she was mature enough to tell him NO. I’m proud of her…glad she didn’t give in to the pressure of the public.
Donna Johnson says
This is such an insightful blog audience. I agree with you all. He was trying to control her by putting her on the spot. Kudos to this girl for being strong and wise enough to say no despite the position he put her in. Now, I hope she is smart enough to stay away from him, too. He’s a hot mess.
Donna Johnson says
This is such an insightful blog audience. I agree with you all. He was trying to control her by putting her on the spot. Kudos to this girl for being strong and wise enough to say no despite the position he put her in. Now, I hope she is smart enough to stay away from him, too. He’s a hot mess.
Delano Squires says
Major FAIL on dude’s part. You could tell by her facial expressions that she wasn’t excited about the proposal. As others have said, I commend her for not caving to the public pressure; and if dude did step out on her maybe now he’s learned his lesson.
Guest34 says
He didn’t read her body language at all! She shook her head “no” like 3 times before he even got down on one knee and her eyes read like, “hell no, don’t do this…” I always wonder what happens after something like this. Is the relationship automattically over?
SOLID D says
I saw everything you saw. I knew from the jump she was going to reject him. Anyway, I’ve never been a supporter of this public spectacle. This should be something personal between you and the other person. I sometimes feel that these guys do this hoping that the woman will feel pressured to say yes.
Big "L" says
Not good at all. We don’t know the whole situation such as how long they have been together but let’s say they have been seeing each other for a while. If you are in a relationship and it’s not heading toward a permanent commitment you are wasting your time. For whatever reason she didn’t see a future with him but he saw a future with her. Therefore before things got to this point they needed to discuss where they were going in relationship. That way she doesn’t look like a maintenance ingrate and he doesn’t look like a simp.
Tareeka Kelly says
Wow!!! If you read her lips, she says “you can’t fix it!!!” . This is every woman’s dream , so obviously he did her really wrong, smh… Now that I’ve seen it, I’m proud of her for not selling out for a ring.
Guest says
every womans dream is to great married and from the look of her face she was not having it…he must of done some real shady stuff to her for her to say no like that…he clearly used to cheat on her…shes very smart for not marrying him..and sorry put a club propsal?…THATS GHETTO…and those women in the back hollering ill take the ring should be ashamed of themselves..that was ignorant and on called for…she looked tired and just plain done with him..im glad she said no…
Guest Z says
I agree. I heard a woman say go ahead girl say yes! And then another hollar I’ll take it! So rude. It was her moment. I wanted to say shut the hell up! That room should of been silent so we and she could hear. We don’t know the background between these two people. I am proud of her for following her heart and mind and saying no in fornt of all those people could not have been easy but she made the right choice for herself. Perhaps this man has learned a lesson that you can’t treat women badly then say sorry and its all forgiven. Also to not assume someone will say yes after you have done them wrong. I felt so sad for the woman. You can see she did not want to hurt him but she clearly did not want to marry him. She was bold and brave to stay there. i would of said no and walked out. too embarassed to stand there.
Big "L" says
I’m seeing a lot of comments about congratulating her for not getting caught up in the moment and how he must of did something wrong. Well if he did something so egregious in her mind that the relationship was permanently damaged why get dressed up and go with him to a formal event like they were couple? Why even remain a couple? This is how women get into trouble. This is how in moments of weakness women allow themselves to get pregnant by men who don’t possess the character qualities needed to be husbands and fathers to say the least. Now these women are stuck with a baby by a “no good” man. If he has done something bad enough to where the relationship is permanently damage she should have ended it before it got to this point. If it has been established that he is incapable of making the right choices and doing the right thing then she should have made the right decision going forward for herself. Again we don’t know the whole story. What we do know is you have two people who’s actions really look bad and foolish to the onlooker. This whole situation could have been avoided with a conversion and perhaps some tough choices before hand.
Big "L" says
I’m seeing a lot of comments about congratulating her for not getting caught up in the moment and how he must of did something wrong. Well if he did something so egregious in her mind that the relationship was permanently damaged why get dressed up and go with him to a formal event like they were couple? Why even remain a couple? This is how women get into trouble. This is how in moments of weakness women allow themselves to get pregnant by men who don’t possess the character qualities needed to be husbands and fathers to say the least. Now these women are stuck with a baby by a “no good” man. If he has done something bad enough to where the relationship is permanently damage she should have ended it before it got to this point. If it has been established that he is incapable of making the right choices and doing the right thing then she should have made the right decision going forward for herself. Again we don’t know the whole story. What we do know is you have two people who’s actions really look bad and foolish to the onlooker. This whole situation could have been avoided with a conversion and perhaps some tough choices before hand.
DC says
This just made me so sad….the woman was in pain, shaking her head ‘no’ from the time the man started to sing and when her beau began his plea for her hand. It was painful to watch. Marriage is a serious institution, not a band-aid or panacea to fix a problem in a relationship. The gentleman took the request for her hand as a party gimmick; he just didn’t seem to understand what he was getting into. Thank God she did.