The mind of a woman is one of the great mysteries of the world. Since the beginning of time, man has tried to understand his woman and anticipate her needs. Unfortunately, he usually ends up even more confused. Husbands, there are things you do that get a rise out of your wife and you might not be sure why. Allow me to help by sharing what your wife really thinks when you do these 10 things.
Action 1: You don’t defend her to your family.
Your wife is immediately thinking you don’t have her back. Wives want to feel loved and supported by their husbands first and foremost. She wants to know she’s now the priority in your life. When you don’t stand up for her, she questions the place she holds in your life.
Action 2: You won’t help her around the house.
Your wife will begin to feel as though your marriage isn’t a true partnership. No one wants to solely carry the majority of the responsibilities within the home. Whenever you see her tired or overwhelmed, look for ways to help her out. If you don’t, she’ll begin to see you as lazy or selfish and that is a major turn off for most women.
Action 3: You don’t take her out.
Your wife will feel like an afterthought in your life. Date nights have to be ongoing, even for couples married 20 years or more. Not making time for his wife is one of the biggest mistakes a man can make in his marriage.
Action 4: You don’t communicate with her.
Your wife will think she’s in her marriage solo. Your wife needs to know what’s going on in your world. When you don’t share, she will feel left out and sometimes as though you might not trust her enough with your thoughts and feelings.
Action 5: You don’t compliment her.
Your wife will begin to think you’re no longer attracted to her. Your wife needs to know she’s still got it and who better to remind her of that than you.
Action 6: You say you can’t read her mind.
Your wife will start to think the two of you don’t have the connection you should. Of course you can’t literally read her mind. But at a certain point in marriage, a husband should know his wife and be clear on what upsets her as well as what brings her joy.
Action 7: You ask “what’s wrong with you?”
Your wife is thinking you should know. Sometimes, there’s a tone associated with this question that your wife just isn’t feeling. She can tell when you aren’t asking out of real concern. Be attentive and ask how you can support her with what she’s going through.
Action 8: You ask “Is that what you’re wearing?”
Your wife is immediately thinking she doesn’t look as good as she thought she did. If she has it on, chances are she was planning on wearing it. Your wife would rather you just come right out and say her red dress looks better, than to ask that question.
Action 9: When you don’t show any interest in her day.
Your wife will feel invisible and again as though she doesn’t matter. I know most men don’t need all those details women like to share, but it makes your wife feel good when she knows she has your attention.
Action 10: When you always just try to fix her problem.
Believe it or not, sometimes your wife just wants to vent. She knows the solution, but it feels good to get things off her chest. Allow her that space.
There are several thoughts that run through a woman’s mind whenever she feels challenged, hurt, excited or frustrated. Although she may not always come right out and say what she’s feeling, know that her mind is always working and she’s contemplating her next move.
Men, this is why your behavior matters so much to your wife. You might be thinking one thing, but in your wife’s mind she’s interpreted your actions in a completely different way. I hope this post helps to provide a better understanding of how your actions impact your wife.
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