From YourTango.com:
Change Relationship Status? Some of Your Friends Need to Go!
In this new age of social media, appropriate protocol and online etiquette is sometimes as elusive as picking the next YouTube video that goes viral. But here’s a new piece of advice built on millions of heartbreaking stories: for the sake of the relationship you are changing your Relationship Status for, take a few more minutes and Unfriend or Block certain Facebook Friends.
Who should go? Anyone who could possibly be a threat to the future of your new relationship including, ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends, everyone you have ever hooked up with in the past, anyone you have had an emotional attachment with, and anybody you have had a crush on.
Read on for two examples of how emotional entanglements on Facebook tested even the strongest of marriages.
What do you think, BMWK? Does Facebook create problems for relationships, or does it simply give access where previously there had been none?
M.Phenomenon says
Very interesting article. It’s funny because I just had a similar situation happen with my marriage that got nipped in the bud before it even started. This guy that my wife and I went to college with tried to add her as a friend. Well when we were in college, he tried to talk to her (before we were together), she wasn’t interested, but they remained friends. I also was cool with him too but as soon as he found out that I was dating her, he pretty much pushed me aside and distanced himself from me. Fast forward a few weeks ago, I actually happen to see this guy at the store. The only reason I noticed him is because he saw me parking my truck and he kept starring at me. After I parked, he just walked away without even acknowledging me. Well the day before Valentine’s Day, he decides to try to add my wife as a friend on facebook. My wife and I were previously friends with him on there, but we elected to delete him because of his shadiness, and obvious problem with me. My wife was contemplating on adding him because she thought that maybe he changed and that a friendship is possible, but I told her that I don’t think he has changed especially based on the fact that he didn’t even speak to me a few weeks prior. She asked me to check to see if he added me and of course he didn’t. He is well aware that we are married (my wife now has the same last name as me and there is a picture of our daughter on our profile), but he still decided to try to befriend my wife again, but not me. My wife is a bit naive but it became very obvious to me that this guy is still trying to holler at my wife. I don’t even ignore the little stuff. I don’t trust people and their intentions. I’m not worried about what my wife does because I do trust her, but I can’t say the same for others. So I hope this story is a lesson for all, keep them off your list!
Truth Hurtz says
Why are people blaming social networking sites like Facebook, Myspace & Twitter they are not the cause of people cheating they just give people more access to meeting others but the networking sites are not the cause of relationships or marriages breaking up, the problem already manifested in the relationship way before that person got in touch with another person. How can you blame a networking site if a person already had problems in their marriage or whatever. That’s like saying a website turned somebody into a freak. No that person was already a freak it’s just that what they saw brought the freak out of it’s hiding space which was hiding down deep inside. So once again I’m not going to sit here and blame a social networking site for a person’s infidelity because the desire to cheat was already there from the start so using a networking site as the blame is just an excuse people are going to do want ever they want to do !!!!!
Shawn Richards says
I co-sign what Truth just said. Last year I had a situation where my significant other actually wound up cheating with a married guy. When I found out, we tried to work it out, but (I’ll keep it all the way REAL with y’all) I couldn’t deal. The trust was gone, I was becoming bitter, and our relationship turned OH so TOXIC! Long story short, I decided that I shouldn’t be the only person to be hurt, so I hacked her facebook profile copied their communications and forwarded them to old dude’s wife. (the mofo had the link to his wife’s profile right there on his page, how slow can you be???) Anyway, when all was said and done, THEY were getting a divorce last I heard. But the TRULY messed up part is that ‘my woman’ got mad and blamed ME for breaking up THEIR MARRIAGE! As if their CREEPING had NOTHING to do with what happened at all. I was the blame! (WTF…)
Darrell E McGee says
Read please
Darrell E McGee says
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