People typically say neither marriage nor parenting come with a manual. Yes, we get advice from those more seasoned in each of these areas. But for the most part, it’s usually trial and error. We are guaranteed to make some mistakes along the way. Our blueprint for marriage is usually in the form of observing other couples; which isn’t always the best source. In my quest to create a marriage centered in love and peace, with great communication and a strong friendship, I recognize I have to set some personal goals. Instead of just looking to other couples or trying to wing it, I will focus on the source of my spiritual foundation. My aim is to become more and more like the wife of the noble character found in Proverbs 31. I am already prepared for the challenges that will come along with this plan. My own selfish agenda still shows up. However, Proverbs 31 will be my blueprint. It reads:
The Wife of Noble Character
“10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. 13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. 15 She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls. 16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. 18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. 19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. 20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. 21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. 22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. 25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. 26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. 31 Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”
I love this passage because it’s more than just a wife of noble character, it is a woman of noble character. While I do take care of our household and fear the Lord, I want to be most reminded of bringing my husband good and no harm, displaying strength and being faithful in instruction as well as giving even more in each area of my life. Every part of this scripture inspires me to be the woman/mother/wife I was called to be. My husband and children are worthy of my all.
BMWK, what is your personal goal as a spouse?