Why is it so hard to say I’m sorry. And I’m not talking about a fake I’m sorry just to shut the person up. But, a true to life, I’m actually really sorry. One Valentine’s Day, my wife and I got into this HUGE argument at The Cheesecake Factory about my spending habits and I KNEW without a shadow of a doubt I was right…that is until I got home and checked the checkbook and I was completely wrong. I sat on the couch for a good 2 hours before I could muster enough energy to get up and go to apologize, even though I knew I was dead wrong. So what was my problem? Pride was my problem.
The definition of pride is excessive belief in one’s own abilities, that interferes with the individual’s recognition of the grace of God. It has been called the sin from which all others arise. Pride is also known as Vanity.
Wow…the sin from which ALL others arise. I’m here to let everyone know that there’s NO WAY that you can have a successful marriage, if you’re full of pride, because that’s going to stunt the growth of your marriage.
The funniest thing to me about saying I’m sorry is I’ve seen folk do literally EVERYTHING to try to say I’m sorry…without saying I’m sorry! Do you know how many times my wife and I were beefing and hours after not speaking, I walk in the room like “you want something from the store?” What I’m really saying is “I’m sorry” but since folk absolutely refuse to muster those words, me offering to get her something from the store is a peace offering that I want her to take as an apology. But at the end of the day, it’s not an apology.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Proverbs 11:2
There have also been SO many times that my wife and I were arguing and I felt like God was telling me to go upstairs to squash it… but 9 times outta 10, I didn’t. Then hours later, when I’m finally ready to apologize, now she’s looking straight, which in turn makes me even more angrier that I swallowed my pride (but I swallowed my pride when I wanted to, not when God told me to) and now she’s upset? Which just makes the anger and the argument last even longer than what it should have lasted.