What I’ve learned after 13 years of marriage, is that when God tells you to do something, you should do it. Don’t be like me and say “no thanks” because maybe when God is telling me to move, He may also be opening up my wife’s heart to forgive me and to accept my apology. But if I wait until I feel like doing it, now her heart is closed. Everything in the game of life is about timing. When a quarterback is throwing a pass to his receiver, that receiver is only open for a split second, throw it too late or too early it’s an incomplete pass or an interception and you don’t move anywhere down the field, you just stay in the same place. In fact, if the ball’s intercepted you actually lose ground.
Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. – Proverbs 13:10
And to be honest, that’s what a lot of us are doing, staying in the same place, moving backwards or not moving anywhere in our marriages because a.) there’s too much pride involved and b.) we’re not moving when God tells us to. So about 5 years ago I made a New Year’s Resolution that I would start admitting when I was wrong. I can now say 13 years later that I’m a MUCH better at apologizing than I was when I first got married. But first, I had to understand AND grasp God’s placement for me as the head of the household of my marriage and family and two, I had to come to realize that I couldn’t be a great leader if I was SO prideful that I couldn’t admit when I’m wrong.
So, my challenge to the readers this week is if you’re beefing with someone, reach out just to say “I’m sorry.” Even if you feel like you did nothing wrong. Simply say “I’m sorry if I offended you” or “I’m sorry for whatever part I played in our friendship not being what it used to be.” I’m telling you, once you learn to keep your pride at bay, you’ll have SO much more peace in your life…trust me on that.
BMWK – Have you found it difficult to say I’m sorry?