You can’t find the love you need when you are not truly open to receive it. When you haven’t finished properly healing and addressing the real issues at hand, you allow for your heart to become guarded or to just shut down altogether. Even if you are in a relationship with a good guy, you can easily and unknowingly sabotage a good thing because your past continues to haunt you. In order to move in the right direction and begin the healing process you must begin with the most important step, forgiveness. Yes, you must forgive those that have brought you pain and disappointment.

This does not mean you deem their actions ok and acceptable. It just means you will no longer hold on to any negative emotions that stem from it. We all have to understand that nobody is perfect. Whether we realize it or not we have all hurt someone. What that person did to you wasn’t about you, it was about their personal issues that they didn’t properly address and then took it out on you. It wasn’t a reflection of you, but it was a reflection of them.

Hurt People Hurt People

To many let the injustices that occur in their lives cause them to look down on themselves, and deem themselves not good enough or deserving of better. Those people didn’t hurt you because you were inadequate in any way; they did it because they felt inadequate and wanted to take it out on somebody. Chances are they felt that way because someone did them wrong as well, they lacked healing and so the cycle continued. Let go of that pain and let us pray they get the help they need. The longer you hold on to the pain, the longer you allow it to damage you and you deserve better than that.

I know it can be hard to forget what has happened, but it is time to let go of what has happened. Without healing you will not be able to reach your full potential. Some people have it all (at least that is how others perceive them) and yet find themselves still struggling with their past because they have yet to start the healing. Lack of healing is an issue that so many of us face, and unless you are prepared to recognize an obstacle for what it is, you won’t be able to properly move past it.

The process can be painful and very difficult, but when you are able to get through it you will emerge a better, happier, more loving individual. You will be able to receive the love that you deserve and have the strength to walk away from the relationship that really isn’t for you. Healing is a beautiful thing, so let us all grab hold of it and enjoy the blessings that have been waiting for us all along.

Side Note: I originally wrote this article on healing for a woman’s magazine which is why it is geared toward women. If you are a man reading this, the same rules apply to you. I will still write an additional articles that speaks directly to the men. In the meantime take heed to what this current article is saying.

BMWK, Can you allow yourself to let go of the past for an amazing future?