That’s right, it is all about HIM. It’s His needs you need to meet not yours. It is HIM that should be running your relationship, not you. I mean you are lucky and blessed to have HIM so you need to act that way and give HIM what He deserves. Far too long you have had your priorities out of order and then many of you wonder why your relationship isn’t where it needs to be. You put work before HIM, kids before HIM, and even your friends before HIM. It’s like you forget what He has done for you. You get so into your feelings about certain things that you can’t even allow yourself to appreciate all the good He is currently doing for you. What will it take for you to understand that He needs to be put on your highest pedestal?

If you have not realized it yet, the “HIM” I am referring to is GOD. There may be some women ready to rip me to shreds because they thought I was referring to a man. For the men who may have thought that, get it together! We are never to be on the “highest” pedestal because that seat is reserved for the one that is responsible for the pedestal existing in the first place. Seriously everybody, we watch as so many struggle in relationships and a lot of times the main missing ingredient is that they are not putting GOD first.

…it is through His patience, understanding, and strength that we will be better equipped to deal with and manage our relationships.

It is essential to take this approach because it is through His patience, understanding, and strength that we will be better equipped to deal with and manage our relationships. Not to mention that when we leave GOD out we make it easy to focus on what our partner is and is not doing. That is usually a recipe for disaster because no matter how good your partner is, they are human. Therefore, we will all have our moments of doing the wrong thing. So if your actions are contingent on what the other is doing, then there will always be reasons not to put your very best foot forward.

On the other hand when you allow GOD to lead, you learn to take a more selfless approach. You begin to understand that it isn’t about pleasing your partner, it is about pleasing GOD first. No matter what they do you have to make sure you are conducting yourself in a way that GOD is proud of. Your partner is simply the beneficiary of you honoring GOD. This is where your focus should be and this is the approach that will help create and sustain happier and more fulfilling relationships.

At the end of the day, this isn’t about acknowledging GOD in your relationship. Many people do that, but we need to allow him to lead our relationships and put Him first and as our main focus. Too many people are not able to enjoy the blessing of relationships and more specifically marriage. We have allowed too many things to distract us from what is important and this needs to stop. GOD wants us all to experience great things. He wants us all to enjoy the many blessings he has waiting for us. To receive them we must make ourselves available and embrace the true source of all that is good.

You want your needs met, and your desires fulfilled? Then focus on Him and it shall be done.

BMWK –  With our busy lives and schedules, what do you do to ensure that God is the focus of your relationship?