How often do you take time to appreciate your spouse? Sometimes, those of us who are married, forget what initially attracted us to our mate. Taking for granted who we were in the beginning, the love that was evident and the excitement of just spending time together. Rarely do most individuals reflect on the blessings of marriage.
Gratefulness is usually an afterthought. I have found there is so much in my life, family and marriage to be grateful for. Having a spouse who loves me in words and deeds is an amazing gift.
Although neither my husband nor myself are perfect, our marriage is in a great place. Living a life where you recognize blessings instead of dwelling on the negatives is a choice. Each of us can choose to live a life of gratitude. Gratitude begins with looking for what’s right in our life. Even when our relationships are experiencing a struggle, there is always a silver lining. When our spouse is overcoming personal challenges, there are still positive attributes we can be thankful for. If you have an amazing spouse, flaws and all, don’t take that for granted. A good spouse is difficult to find. Here are a few reminders of what a good spouse looks and feels like:
You know you have a good spouse when…
Your spouse does something nice for you just because. When it doesn’t have to be a special occasion for them to do something nice for you, be grateful. A spouse who comes home with that cute little item you mentioned weeks ago, just because, is a blessing.
Your spouse believes in your dreams, no matter what. When they can see you achieving your goals as clearly as you can, be grateful. Whether your ideas are off track and makes absolutely no sense to anyone else in the world, if your spouse still supports it, you are blessed.
Your spouse keeps the family spiritually grounded. If you have a spouse who is able to maintain a spiritual connection and be led by God in all things, be grateful. Recognizing and acknowledging the source of where all of our blessings flow is an actual blessing itself.
Your spouse actually listens to you. If you are married to someone who values your voice and opinions, be grateful. A spouse who is cognizant of your likes and dislikes and consistently adheres to them is a blessing.
Your spouse is gentle with your heart. If your spouse realizes your feelings are valid and treats them as such, be grateful. Even when we wonder why we feel the way we do, a spouse who doesn’t question or judge is a true blessing.
If your marriage hasn’t quite arrived here just yet, not to worry. Change can happen in any situation. We have to be lovingly honest when sharing our needs with our spouse. Telling them what makes us feel loved without shifting blame or pointing fingers is how transformation happens. Be vulnerable and communicate all of your needs to your spouse.
BMWK, how do you know you have a good spouse?