We all want to know why men pull away from relationships — why a man runs away from the love of a good woman will always be a question ladies everywhere will want the answer to. Today, we’ll be listing down 10 of the main reasons why guys pull away in relationships and how they can change that mindset. Take note, men!
Why Men Pull Away | 10 Reasons Why Men Run from Relationships
In this article:
- You Think You’ll Miss Out on Something
- You’re Afraid of What Your Boys Will Say
- You’re Buying into Stereotypes
- She Requires the Best from You
- You Think You Need to Get Yourself Together
- You’re Afraid of Rejection
- You Haven’t Seen Successful Relationships Around You
- You Expect Too Much
- You Don’t Want Her to Change You
- You Think You Already Have It All
1. You Think You’ll Miss Out on Something
Many men think they’ll miss out on freedom, fun with the boys or other things when a good woman “locks” them down. What they don’t realize is how much they can truly gain from the love of a good woman.
2. You’re Afraid of What Your Boys Will Say
If you’re more worried about what your boys think than what your woman thinks, then you’re not ready for a mature relationship. It’s true that you can’t please everyone but if your relationship starts heading towards marriage, then your woman needs to come first before your boys.
3. You’re Buying into Stereotypes
Some men think all women are gold-diggers who are out to get half of what they have. The problem is, I’ve heard this ideology even come from men who don’t have anything to split in half. A wise man once said, “nothing from nothing leaves nothing!” Every woman out there is not out to divorce you and take your stuff. And if you’re not careful, you can end up keeping yourself from gaining more than you will ever lose.
4. She Requires the Best from You
A great woman will make you better. She’ll encourage and inspire you to be your best, so you can be the man that she doesn’t only need but deserves. Don’t let this scare you off.
5. You Think You Need to Get Yourself Together
While you may want to get yourself together before you move forward or you think you have to get some things straight, don’t be afraid to communicate what those things are. Are these things you can work on together? If you’re waiting for the perfect situation, you may be frustrated later to find out that the perfect situation never comes and in the meantime, you’ve let a good woman slip away.
6. You’re Afraid of Rejection
You can’t hit a home run if you never swing your bat. There are beautiful, smart, intelligent women you might have a chance with if only you’d make the first move. Women love a man who isn’t afraid to step up to the plate. So if you’re not doing this already, make sure you start now!
7. You Haven’t Seen Successful Relationships Around You
Don’t be discouraged by what you see or hear about marriage and relationships. Just because other people are getting divorced doesn’t mean you will too. If divorce concerns you, then make sure you equip yourself as well as possible. Make sure you solidify your relationship by using communication and marital education tools to fight the risk.
8. You Expect Too Much
Are you looking for a video vixen in the bedroom, a CPA to balance the household finances, a supermodel for date night, and Claire Huxtable to raise your kids? If you are, you better ask yourself how you measure up in those same areas. Setting realistic expectations is an important component of every marriage and long-term relationship, so figure out what’s important and get real.
9. You Don’t Want Her to Change You
Yes, there are some people who think they can change you, but change can be a good thing in some cases. You should always be striving to be your best you, especially if marriage and children come into the picture. So, don’t be afraid of change. Embrace it as long as you’re changing for the better.
10. You Think You Already Have It All
You may think you already have it all. She’s already doing everything you could ask for, so what difference does a piece of paper make? The paper represents your covenant with God and your wife. It shows her that you are willing to commit to her and that you have no intentions of leaving or not giving your best in the relationship.
A good woman can be the best thing for you. I understand – sometimes, the pressure of being in a long-term relationship can be intimidating for you. Knowing why men pull away after getting close to you is hard to do. However, there is nothing that can’t be solved by communicating with your partner. Take the time to sit down and talk, rather than just packing up and leaving.
BMWK, why do you think men pull away from a relationship? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section.
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Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on January 20, 2016, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.
I have been dating a man for about a year. It did start out as only wanting friendship, me because I had just broken up with someone, and he because he was trying to get a former girlfriend back. Now that I think about it how do you get a girlfriend back while dating other women even if they are just friends? Anyway, we passed “go” and from then on it was I do but I don’t, I only wanted your friendship. So one year later this “friend” is still in his life in a big way because now he has stage 4 metastasized cancer. I was the one standing in front of him when it all began to manifest that something was wrong, and was there through the whole process of surgery and treatments, taking of his dogs and birds and providing a shelter to recoup since his place was not suitable for his hip surgery recovery. No family near by, treatments 2.5 hour drives. His prognosis is not good, yet he still just wants friendship and says he is not “in love” with me. And as you mentioned in another article, a real relationship should be easy but this is not. I get very little feed back, encouragement or gratitude for anything. He’s polite, and tries not to “hurt” my feelings. LOL!!! I didn’t do this because I thought he might actually love me, I did it because I would have done this for any friend and have done so over my life for other people in need. But the fact is I do love him, sick, overweight, and broke. as he is. I have asked God why but to no avail. It was probably never his will that I help him, and I just jumped in and did it. Now he’s getting ready to move back into his place. That will end it I know because I am only a convenience and not a priority in his life, and his back up so to speak and that means I will not be priority in his life. Once again adrift in the land of limbo!
And once again I am reeled in like a fish, trying not to get hooked again emotionally but always failing. I am a fool. What can I say, I know it and so does everyone else including him! LOL life is funny and sometimes sad.