As we prepare to bid farewell to the year 2016, there are also some behaviors we need to leave behind. You know the ones…the ones that have caused us nothing but heartache and pain. The type of behaviors that have had a negative impact on our marriages.

We can’t welcome in the new without getting rid of the old.

With a new year and a fresh start right around the corner, there are 4 petty habits married couples just need to leave behind in 2016.  And here they are:

Airing our dirty laundry all over social media.

Unfortunately, I’ve seen couples disrespect one another, call each other out and declare the end of the relationship all on social media. Let’s be grown ups in 2017 and handle our relationship challenges as adults by discussing and resolving them privately. The only people who want to see your relationship drama play out are usually those rooting against you any way. If it’s support you need, when you’re going through, lean on those you trust the most.

Acting like we’re too good for therapy, counseling, coaching, marriage ministries and other resources.

Put your pride to the side and your marriage first. There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking ways to improve your marriage. This stigma in our community regarding seeking help is hurting us more than we realize. Why suffer alone when there are trained professionals and those who’ve been where you are and are where you desire to be within your reach. Do what’s best for your family. Struggling unnecessarily usually isn’t what’s best.

I’ve seen couples disrespect one another, call each other out and declare the end of the relationship all on social media.

Being selfish in our thoughts and actions.

It seemed like 2016 was the year of “me, me, me” for just about everyone. I didn’t feel as much love in this world as I would’ve liked. We absolutely could’ve done much better. I think I spent the majority of this year reminding couples to be love, make sacrifices and put their partner first. A lot of couples seemed to forget that marriage is a partnership. It will not work if you don’t consider your spouse as often as possible. The truth is love is an action word and is much better done than said.

Making excuses for why we aren’t better spouses.

Blaming one another for the challenges in the marriage simply doesn’t work. It never has been good for couples. Each individual has to take responsibility for their actions, whether they’re positive or negative. You are responsible for you and what you choose to do. Anything you don’t like, you change. Where you fall short, you step up and do better. Let’s declare 2017 the year of no excuses.

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I have already claimed that my 2017 is going to be amazing. And I meant that for my spiritual walk, my role as mom, my career, and most definitely my marriage. Couples, let’s make this new year, the best year ever for our marriages. We can try harder, love stronger, and just be better, in every way!

BMWK, What are some petty habits you feel married couples should leave in 2016?