I have a tendency to hold on to friendships longer than I should because I am loyal and often worry that I may hurt their feelings if I begin to pull away.
Can you relate?
But the one thing that growing up has taught me, is that life is about phases, changes, and breakthroughs. You can’t be afraid to respond to the whispers (as Mama Oprah likes to say) and the writing on the wall, when it’s time to move folk from the friendship zone, to the holding cage of friendly strangers and acquaintances.
Here are four signs that it’s time to part ways with some of the people that you call “friend”.
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amie kamara says
This article definitely hits home as well. After years of betrayal by females , I have been skeptical to make friends due to lack of trust. My prayer is for God to send good friends in my life because everybody needs someone to talk to.
D says
I have let go of a friend with whom I previously shared so much. She was always my go to for most things. Throughout her ups and downs, I was there for her. Once I stopped ignoring the negative aspects of our relationships, I realized that we were friends of convenience. We no longer had much in common. She mocked the fact that I was a stay at home mom-for instance, she gave me an independent woman card for my birthday and then crossed out the “in”. When I spoke to her about it she laughed it off. She laughs off anything that she doesn’t want to confront. I decided to leave the friendship in the past. I found out that she had been discussing my business with others that choose to malign my character. Well, I got over my hurt feelings and wished her and her family well. I miss her family, but I have no place for her foolishness.
Kara Stevens says
D, that is absolutely unacceptable. You did not the right thing although I know that it is difficult.
Anonymous says
You did the right thing. Sometimes people grow apart and it’s for the better. Count it all joy.
Anita says
I know how you feel Amie, I’ve been burned so many times by so-called “friend” to where it’s hard to trust anyone, but I hope and pray too that in 2015 God will bless me with some “real”, true friends.
Maegan says
This article was right on point! There is no being in denial after reading this. Thank you!