Tell Them How You Feel, Not What They Aren’t Doing
When you share your list of concerns, speak from the standpoint of how you feel about the issues. Be like, ‘When [this] happens, I feel like [this]’. Avoid the, ‘I don’t like it when your mother does [this]’ approach. Attacking their family, however right you are, will only trigger a tit-for-tat exchange on whose family is the worst.