[tps_header]If you and your spouse are truly ride-or-die for each other…if you believe it’s truly ‘us against the world’, then why do you let ‘the world’ cause problems in your marriage during the holidays. And by ‘the world’, I specifically mean, your in-laws. True story. My friend Timarrah (as we’ll call her) has been married to Remy for five years. Before marriage, … [Read more...]
Stop Comparing Me To Your Ex! 4 Comparisons That Are Killing Your New Relationship
I've always believed that there is no such thing as a soulmate or such a thing as finding "the one." I think those are romanticized versions of love and relationships, and it gets us stuck looking at preferences more than character and values. I also believe that sometimes it causes us to unfairly compare our new mates with our old mates, instead of embracing the fact that … [Read more...]
7 BIG Things that Couples Want Their In-Laws to Puh-lease Stop Doing… TODAY!
In-Laws…the ones we love to hate! Okay hate is a very strong so let’s say the ones we really, really like to DISLIKE sometimes. I overheard a conversation the other day with a wife who was FURIOUS because of the ruckus her mother-in-law was causing in her marriage. While in-laws can be such a blessing, many times they can be cancerous to a relationship or marriage , … [Read more...]
Singles: Here Are the Top 5 Advantages of Flying Solo for the Holidays
Some people think being single during the holidays is depressing. Many may feel lonely or left out because they don’t have a significant other at their side. Well I am here to tell you that just because you are single does not mean you are at a disadvantage. In fact, you have the advantage of being unattached during the holidays. I’ve listed my top 5 advantages … [Read more...]
Finally, A Part of His Family; Bridging the Gap with My In-laws
by R.A. Boyd, I’m going to tell you a secret. After five years of marriage and seventeen years of knowing my husband and his family, this year’s Thanksgiving was the first time I felt comfortable going to my in-laws without my husband there by my side. Yes. That’s the big secret. It may not sound like a deal but, I’m sure a few of you understand. The Apostolic faith has … [Read more...]
3 Steps To Avoid Chaos With Your In-Laws Over The Holidays
“I married you, not your family!” WELP!….I can already hear the number of people who will be preaching this gospel after the holidays are over this year. Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, suddenly... 'supposedly' loving families and in-laws have chaotic disputes about who is having dinner where, who gets to cook the macaroni and cheese and what the newest family gossip is. … [Read more...]
Competing With His First Love (His Mother)
I swear I have the world’s best mother-in-law. She’s sweet, thoughtful, loving, giving and a great grandparent to my daughters. She loves her children more than anything and has always accepted me as part of the family. My mother-In-law is also an outstanding cook who loves to feed us. She sometimes even prepares meals for us to take on the road. During one of those to-go … [Read more...]
The Grinch (I Mean Mother-in-law) Who Stole Christmas
I hope that just because you're in a blended family that you never have to experience the Grinch during Christmas, AKA your mother-in-law. All mother-in-laws are not bad. I'm grateful to The Most High that I have a wonderful relationship with mine. But several of my friends, ummmm...not so much. Imagine this: Your mother-in-law walks in to your house on Christmas morning … [Read more...]
Seeking The In-Laws Approval?
I couldn't imagine the struggle my husband and I would have experienced had my family and his family not approved of our relationship. I am a pretty good-natured person, so I find it easy to build relationships and get along with all types of personalities. I have the patience and temperament needed to make all of my relationships a little bit easier than most. From the … [Read more...]
#MarriageChat Recap: How To Stay United During the Holidays
After a brief hiatus during the holidays, our weekly Twitter party, #marriagechat, was back in full swing. We were happy to see our regulars, and glad to welcome in first timers. This week's topic was How to Stay United During the Holidays. We're less than 3 weeks away from Christmas, and we wanted to get your perspective on what goes down with your family during the most … [Read more...]
5 Tips to Deal With Family and Friends For Thanksgiving
by William and Yolanda Powell (https://amzn.to/uZ4gpu) William and Yolanda Powell, authors of Soul Food and Living Water (https://amzn.to/uZ4gpu) share five things to ponder as you prepare to gather with family members and friends for Thanksgiving. Memories: Warm memories shared among family members can often help to establish a steady and strong path on which everyone … [Read more...]
What Should I Do If I Hate My In-Laws?
We had a very lively discussion during #MarriageChat last week because the topic was Dealing with the In-laws and Extended family. Having conflicts/problems with the in-laws is very common. Perhaps it's because your spouse's family thinks they have his/her best interests at heart, perhaps they see you as an outsider, perhaps they resent the fact that your spouse has a new … [Read more...]
Get Your Momma! Words That a Mother-In-Law Should Never Say To Her Daughter-In-Law
Ladies, has your mother-in-law ever said something to you that just rubbed you the wrong way? Well the website Babble came up with a list of 10 Things that his momma better not say. Included on the list of things that she should never tell her new daughter are: How To Keep Her Home My Son Looks Skinny, Don't You Feed Him He Was Mine Before He Was Yours I Would … [Read more...]
Surviving The Holidays At The In-Laws
by Tara Pringle Jefferson Christmas time is here! Family gatherings, big stick-to-your-ribs feasts and more football than you've got time for. But for some families, personalities clash (big time) during this time of year. Mother- and daughter-in-law bicker. The siblings fight. The father-in-law retreats to the bedroom. You know, family drama. But the holidays don't … [Read more...]