Bad habits are hard to break. Smoking, cursing and laziness are a few that, despite our best efforts, most of us continue to struggle with.
The truth is our bad habits won’t change overnight. There are some that affect just you personally, meaning if you never change them, they won’t necessarily hurt anyone else. Then there are others, that if not changed, could ruin your whole marriage.
So couples, it’s time that we become aware of the habits causing us the most heartache. Check out these seven bad habits that will wear your marriage out.
1. Ignoring your spouse’s requests too often will definitely cause a rift between you and your spouse. It’s easy to get caught up with your own needs. But remember whether you’re the one fulfilling your spouse’s needs or not, they will get met.
2. Sleeping separately makes intimacy difficult. Whether you do it when you’re mad at your spouse or whether you get into the habit of falling asleep on the couch after a night of binge watching, you’re destroying your intimacy. There’s a connection that happens just by lying next to your spouse. Plus, keep in mind, simply rolling over could kick off something hot and steamy in the bedroom.
3. Failing to show a genuine interest in your spouse’s life will affect your connection. People need to feel loved and valued. It doesn’t require very much energy to check in with your spouse and ask how their day is going.
4. Making everything else a priority above your spouse will drive him/her away. Your marriage and spouse should be at the top of the to-do list. When things are good in the home, all else will feel right in the world. Your spouse counts on you to make them feel like the most important person in this world.
5. Talking too much and not listening enough will make your spouse check out, altogether. Communication is the most needed ingredient for a healthy relationship. The verbal connection with your spouse is everything. Listening is essential to understanding.
6. Putting little-to-no effort into the relationship will ultimately end the relationship. Marriage is an investment. Take the time to nurture it and give it the energy it needs to thrive. Your marriage won’t work without you working.
7. Letting yourself go will affect the physical attraction you have with your spouse. For the most part, people want who they initially fell in love with, and some of that has to do with appearance. Look good, smell good and take pride in how you look for your spouse.
Sometimes, we just can’t seem to shake those bad habits. However, for the good of our marriage, we have to rid ourselves of the ones doing more harm than good.
BMWK, what are some bad habits you feel hurts our marriages?