Many of us who are single are quick to state that we are “not looking” or we are “happy” as singles. Is that really 100% true? Or are we sharing the strong, politically correct answer for all to hear?
I currently lead my church’s singles ministry. As I lead, I have made it my mantra to share with our singles how we can live productive, active lives and make progress in all the areas that may be challenging for us. I believe in packing a lot of living into our days, because there is no guarantee what the next day will hold. I feel that living full, purposeful days will help us to become more satisfied with our status. As we work on our health, finances, personal/spiritual growth or fulfilling our dreams, we grow and become more of the type of person we can be satisfied with.
Singles may rejoice in not having to report to someone else about their whereabouts, or having to seek consensus on what they want to do or how they want to spend their time. Yet, conversely having no-one close with whom they can share their hearts, minds and desires sometimes makes being single a difficult situation.
Satisfaction in general comes from being content with where you are in life. The main question to ask yourself to know if you are single and satisfied is this: “Do I love who I have become?” If nothing else would change, could you accept who and where you are today? Reflect on your answer, and if the answer is no, spend time taking care of the areas that make you feel dissatisfied.
If you want to marry someday, be willing to compromise and be flexible. If you are a lady, be willing to make your husband-to-be feel like he has a place in your life. Being overly independent as ladies typically leaves men wondering if you are available or if you have created space for them to become a part of your daily life. If you are a man, allow your lady to speak into your life and purpose. Sometimes women see far and beyond, and can help their men navigate the complex waters of life.
As you enjoy your satisfaction in singleness, remember to balance it out. If you plan to marry someday, become approachable and learn how to become interdependent – where you are able to make space for the love you want to have in your life.