Remember the scene from the movie “Best Man” where Lance fights flashbacks of betrayal running through his head at the altar. Yet, somehow, he finds the strength to marry Mia despite her having slept with his best man Harper. He doesn't allow the flashbacks that could be a setback to keep him from making a decision and commitment to move forward in his relationship. While this … [Read more...]
The #1 Tip for Getting the Peace You Crave in Your Marriage in 2018
Perfect marriages do not exist! Let us put this long lived myth that has been destroying so many marriages to rest. The myth that perfect marriages exist is nothing more than a lie that sets many marriages up for failure. These failures occur as a result of discord, disagreements, disharmony, worry, agitation, distress, frustration, fighting, and even hatred toward one … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Save Your Marriage From Holiday Hell
I don’t know about you, but I love, love, love Christmas! As for the New Year, it's a time we look forward to hitting the reset button and starting life fresh. If you have children they are through the roof with excitement. Adults, on the other hand, look forward to time off from work, holiday parties, family gatherings and last, but certainly not least, Christmas shopping for … [Read more...]
After the Affair: 6 Faith Strengthening Scriptures to Help Restore Trust in Your Union
Yesterday, I let you guys in on some of the crazy that happened to me and, quite honestly, some of the crazy that happens to anyone who finds their marriage embroiled in the aftermath of an affair. After the ugly crying and blame shifting were over, I could only do one thing, turn to God and His power. It was in that power that I was able to remember my faith and trust Him once … [Read more...]
After the Affair: 4 Scriptures to Reignite Your Faith and Save Your Marriage
When a marriage goes through its ups and downs, where do you turn for guidance? I can honestly and wholeheartedly say to you that if it was not for my faith our marriage “Never Would Have Made It” through the storm! Glory to God our marriage not only survived the storm but we are lying under a beautiful rainbow covering! See most married couples have it twisted. Twisted in … [Read more...]
Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Judge People Who Choose to Save Their Marriage After an Affair
Let’s keep it real. In today's society, it has become way too easy to slap judgment on someone for just about any reason. Now imagine having the label of cheater. Maybe you are like me and know all too well what that feels like so you don’t have to imagine. Well, the flip side of this is being the spouse who was cheated on. With judgments being freely handed down, there's a … [Read more...]
11 Small Things That Can Break Trust in Your Marriage
Trust is the core of a marriage. A thriving marriage is built upon godly commitment. While every husband and every wife will surely make mistakes year after year, when those mistakes cause distrust to build, the marriage slowly erodes. Sadly, there are some who think they can keep from doing the “big” stuff that would break marital trust (i.e. having an affair) but they fail … [Read more...]
Revenge Cheating: 5 Ways it Sabotages Both Marital and Individual Recovery
"Last night was well worth it!” Imagine reading this text message on your husband’s phone. How would you react? Well, I don’t have to imagine and I can tell you exactly how I reacted...minus the cuss words of course. Being cheated on can cause you to lose your religion! The interesting dynamic in our marriage is that we both cheated. Neither of our affairs was … [Read more...]
How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage By Guarding Your heart
In my most recent article 3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage and Win After an Affair, I shared how my husband and I had reached an impasse in our relationship. With each of us having forsaken our vows and engaged in extramarital affairs, things weren't looking good for us and we had decided to separate. But God placed it on my heart to attempt to reconcile with … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Fight for Your Marriage (and Win) After an Affair
Affairs are messy. I'm not trying to be glib but for lack of a better word, messy just fits. Everything becomes a mess when a man, or woman, "puts asunder" what God has joined together in holy matrimony. When asked to write this article, I was first reminded of the fight of my life. My marriage had become a mess and was breathing its last. Sadly, I saw no way to resuscitate it. … [Read more...]
30 Serious Consequences of Infidelity…Take Heed
Infidelity is by far one of the worst things that can transpire in marriage. Trust me, I know from personal experience! It violates everything built between you and your spouse in such a personal way. Majority of us who’ve been cheated on didn’t see it coming…I know I was blindsided for sure! “I am deeply aware of the disappointment and hurt that my infidelity … [Read more...]
The 4 Pillars of Trust that Must be Present in Every Relationship
Trust is the currency of every relationship, and just like money, it's value could either depreciate or appreciate over time, depending on the events and/or investments made. Trust mimics this same attribute and, in this case, the investments are directly related to the actions and/or in-actions of both spouses in the relationship, which could enhance and nurture its value or … [Read more...]
Infidelity in Marriage: Here’s How to Rebuild Intimacy after an Affair
If I told you that the day my husband confessed his affair, we had sex the same night. Would you believe me or think I was pulling one over on you? Do you even believe it is possible to reconnect intimately immediately or does the thought of having sex so soon sicken you? Well, we found ourselves in case number one below… Infidelity has a deep effect on a marriage's sex … [Read more...]
The Movie Was Great, But Here Are the Real Women of “Hidden Figures”
Hidden Figures, is a bestselling biography entitled “Hidden Figures: The American Dream and the Untold Story of the Black Women Mathematicians Who Helped Win the Space Race” written by Margot Lee Shetterly. And it was recently turned into a Hollywood movie revealing the untold true story of three brilliant African-American women, Katherine Johnson (Taraji Henson), Dorothy … [Read more...]
A Right Way and A Wrong Way: How to Tell Your Spouse About Your Affair
There will never be a “perfect time” to confess your affair to your spouse. But there will always be a right way and wrong way in which to do it. And we're certainly not giving you these tips on how to confess so that you can go out and repeat the same mistakes again. And these tips are not going to get you off the hook either...you have some serious consequences to … [Read more...]