Have you ever heard this from your spouse – “how is it that when I ask you to do something it takes forever? But when your friends ask you to do something, you move right away.” Or, how about this one, “When your friend calls, you are on the phone talking and laughing. But when I try to talk with you, you have nothing to say.” Your spouse is crying out. What they are … [Read more...]
6 Ways to Make Your Husband Feel Loved Outside of the Bedroom
If your husband is anything like mine, he appreciates some loving outside of the bedroom. We know our husbands are sexual beings. However, there is more to the connection between husband and wife than sex. I’m talking about whatever affection is to your man. I know what affection looks like to me, but it took me some time to learn what affection means to my husband. I had to … [Read more...]
My Husband Doesn’t Show Me Love Like He Used To
Where did the affection go? My husband and I have been marriage coaches for quite some time now, and this is one of the topics that comes up frequently. Wives think: "Before marriage he gave me all of the attention that I needed." "What changed?" Husbands think: "I didn't realize she was so needy?" What Happened? Marriage happened! My husband and I had a good … [Read more...]
What to Do When Your Mother-In-Law Doesn’t Like You
The feeling of your mother-in-law not welcoming or liking you is uncomfortable...to say the least. It puts you in a bad position. I've been a daughter-in-law for many years and now I'm in the role of mother-in-law (or mother-in-love I like to say). So, my viewpoint comes from a heart that sees the best in each of these positions. So, if you find yourself in a position where … [Read more...]
5 Communication Strategies That Really Really Worked for My Marriage
Communication strategies have helped my marriage tremendously. It took my husband and I years to learn the 5 strategies I’m going to share with you. And the truth is, we didn’t have great examples of marriage before us when we were younger. As a married couple, we learned some things by watching educational marriage videos. But we learned even more through trial and error. … [Read more...]
Here’s Why You Need to Give Your In-Laws the Benefit of the Doubt
Are in-laws bad or are they just getting a bad rap? Many times, what seems like issues with your in-laws are just misunderstandings. You see, when you first get married, everyone is learning their new role - you, your spouse and your in-laws too. You are not the only one that will have to make adjustments for this new family dynamic. For instance, if your parents are used … [Read more...]
Wake-up Call: Divorce Begins Long Before She Walks Out the Door
When she packed her bags, and walked out the door he was shocked. He didn't see it coming. What happened? What did he miss? Was there another man? No, there wasn't another man. However, there was a woman who felt alone in her own home. You see, her divorce began way before she walked out that door. Being a life partner now seemed like a life sentence for her. This had been … [Read more...]
Slay for Bae: 7 Quick and Easy Tips on How to Remain His Eye Candy
What happens when your look no longer matches his vision? And before I get started, let’s just be clear that this can go in either direction. Your husband’s physical appearance may no longer match the vision you had for the man of your dreams either. So let’s talk about reality for a minute. When you first got married you were both looking good every time you stepped out … [Read more...]
Married Couples: If You Smile in Public and Cry Behind Closed Doors, Read This
There are too many married faces, smiling in public and crying behind closed doors. This may be you or a couple you know. For sure, it was me and my husband early-on in our marriage. We had just as many bad days as we did good days. Can you relate to any of these scenarios? You're leaving for work sad because of what is going on in your marriage.....but, you're happy you … [Read more...]
How to Maintain Your Marriage While Caring for Aging Parents
Most of us never think about what will happen if our parents become incapacitated or even what will happen as they age. As a kid, our parents seem strong and invincible. So why think about elder care? Listen, I certainly didn't think about it. Yet, that didn't stop it from slapping me in the face real hard. I found myself being the primary care giver to both of my … [Read more...]
I’m 48 and Expecting…and I’m Not Quite Sure How I Feel About It
Can you believe it? I'm 48 and expecting—but not like you may think. I'm expecting a daughter-in-law (a daughter-in-love). Our family is growing. In just one more day, there will be another Mills. It's a huge deal for the excited couple. But let me tell you, it's a huge deal for me, too. I’m not quite sure how to feel. And I'm just being 100 perfect honest. I’m excited for … [Read more...]
4 Right-on-Time Prayers for Forgiveness in Your Marriage
Marriage cannot succeed without forgiveness. I know that’s a bold statement. But it’s true. Every day we have opportunity to offend one another. It may not happen on purpose. Most times it’s an accident. Yet and still, with every offense comes the opportunity to forgive. Forgiveness is one of those areas most couples, including me and mine, could spend a little extra time … [Read more...]
4 Prayers for Peace in Your Marriage When It Hits Hard Times
Peace is something we all need. I know I don't want to live life with a bunch of arguing, fussing and fighting. I don't want to live with worry, sadness or depression. All these things rob you of peace. If you are anything like me, peace is an essential part of the marriage relationship. The four short prayers here are all about talking to God and making confession over the … [Read more...]
Husbands: 3 Powerful Prayers to Cover Your Marriage from Spiritual Attack
There is nothing more beautiful than a husband praying over his wife. Lift her up before God each day, asking for God’s power, protection and peace. When a man covers his marriage in prayer, you know he is serious. Start here and then keep building upon your marriage with work and prayer. Every place you see a blank insert your wife’s name. Pray for her peace God, You … [Read more...]
5 Great Ways to Celebrate the Holidays When You Are Dead Broke
It's November already. So if you haven't already started putting money aside for Christmas gifts, then your likelihood of balling out this holiday is looking pretty slim. And if that's the case, then now is a great time to talk about how to get through the holidays when you’re dead broke. Most of us are so used to spending money and buying loads of gifts that it seems … [Read more...]