Yeah, you've been hitting the town with Benjamin and his friends again, hoping your husband doesn't find out. No, you're not having several sordid, lustful affairs with some guys named Benjamin, Grant, Jackson and Lincoln. The characters in question are the namesakes of the bills you keep secretly withdrawing from your savings without your husband's knowledge. Your sneaking … [Read more...]
Work It Until It’s Wonderful; Ending the Myth of the White Picket Fence Theory
Marriage is wonderful, and it can resemble the legendary white picket fence lifestyle. However, the lie of it all is that it just happens. Two people get together and because they are madly in love, the fantasy is that they will get married and live happily ever after. It just doesn’t work that way. Folks who believe this lie are devastated when “madly in love” becomes “I … [Read more...]
Is Church a Safe Place to Talk About Your Marriage Challenges?
Church is thought to be a safe place. A place of learning, peace and spiritual guidance. However, is it a safe place to talk about your marriage challenges? Churches nowadays have specific ministries for married people. There are ministries set up specifically to meet the needs of husbands and wives. They usually offer monthly or quarterly marriage workshops and various … [Read more...]
Don’t Go to Bed Angry – Your Marriage Can’t Take It
Did your parents ever tell you not to go to bed angry? My mother instilled this in me. Whether an old wives’ tale or a biblical adage, there is something to it. Every couple has disagreements but you don’t have to go to bed angry. It took me years to realize this. Sure I knew the saying but that doesn’t mean I followed it. It can be a challenge to get yourself together in … [Read more...]
How You’re Cursing Your Child. The Truth About Generational Blessings
When we think of generational blessings, it usually has something do to with the Bible and God either blessing or cursing a family and their descendants. However, in this article, let’s take a look at the generational blessings we as parents, can set up for our children right now, through the decisions we make. What is a generational blessing? Dr. Tony Evans explains … [Read more...]
Should You Know Everything About Your Mate?
Every person, every psychologist and every marriage counselor has an opinion on what makes a good marriage. Can we agree that part of a good marriage includes love, honesty and openness? However, does this mean should you know everything about your mate? Is it necessary to know all that happened in their life before they met you? Is it realistic to know your mate inside and … [Read more...]
8 Scriptures to Plant in Your Child’s Heart
Our children are so bright. They are able to memorize more than we may think. Just turn on the radio, and see how many songs they are able to sing from memory. If they can sing songs and quote nursery rhymes by heart, why not the scriptures? Studies show that the core structure of a child’s brain is 85 percent developed by age 3. It’s great to have the backing of briefing … [Read more...]
Will Unfulfilled Expectations Mess Up Your Marriage?
I have thought about it often: expectations in a marriage. Should you have high expectations? Should a mate assume their spouse knows them so well that they will know what to do and what not to? Is this faith and hope? Are mates being realistic? I told you, I have many thoughts on this subject. Let me set the expectation for this article. I simply want to raise a … [Read more...]
His Biggest Fan or His Greatest Critic; Is It Cool to Criticize Your Man?
Criticizing is one of those things we can do without realizing it. It can be disguised with phrases like – "I was only trying to help," "someone needs to tell you" or, my all-time favorite: "I just want things to be excellent." Criticism is accusatory. It finds fault. It is disapproving. None of these things are uplifting to your marriage. It’s funny; the ones we love the … [Read more...]
Don’t Stop Now. How to Honor the Mother of Your Children EVERY DAY!
Yes, Mother's Day has passed. But that doesn't mean everyone should go back to the regularly scheduled program. Honoring your wife or the mother of your children should be a lifestyle. Mother’s Day, Birthdays and Holidays are days to give special recognition, but every day is a day to give honor and respect. It doesn’t take a lot of money or even a lot of time when giving … [Read more...]
How Do You Tell a Child One of Their Grandparents Has Died?
Death is one of those subjects we just don't talk about a lot. I don't know about you, but it doesn't come up often at my dinner table. However, it's still something that we have to face and more often than we would like. The death of a grandparent or great grandparent (as in my case) is not easy and explaining it to a little person adds to the challenge. "Granddaddy, you … [Read more...]
#VoteTrumpGetDumped; the Latest Relationship Hot Topic
Can you believe the three-ring circus that is going on in the political realm? Politics have always had hidden agendas and cut-throat tactics. However, today it resembles something seen on reality television. I watched a late night news program and saw there is a new slogan among a large group of women: Vote Trump, Get Dumped. The news program talked about the social media … [Read more...]
3 Things You Must Let Go of to Have a Successful Marriage
Marriage is one of the toughest yet rewarding partnerships you will ever enter. It requires change of both partners. Understand though: never let go of the characteristics that are essential to you as a person. However, there are some learned behaviors that plague marriages. To have a successful marriage, here are three things you must let go. Unforgiveness, a quick temper, … [Read more...]
#BlackLoveMatters; 3 Reasons to Celebrate It
Love should be celebrated no matter your race. Given that, some may ask, “Why specify black love?” The simplest answer, “Why not?” But if you need more than that, here are three powerful reasons to celebrate black love. It’s up to us to celebrate us. We can’t sit around and wait for others to celebrate our achievements. As in any other realm of life, minority achievement is … [Read more...]
What Do You Teach Your Kids About Faith? 4 Lessons to Begin with
In today’s ever-changing society, how do you know what to teach your children about faith? Faith is constant, however, religion changes at a rate similar to that of the trendy fashion world. Every season, there is a new fad that displaces an old truth. Those old truths hold great faith. In the name of religion, I’ve witness several viewpoints and practices, which, to me have … [Read more...]