I'm aware of the misspelling (sexiness) and intentionally spelled it as sexyness. Hopefully, you caught why I spelled it that way. But, in case you missed it, it’s a play on the title of the hit film and book of the same name, “The Pursuit of Happyness.” Here, I will talk about the full beauty of a woman men should appreciate. Why Men Should Value A Woman's Sexyness In this … [Read more...]
4 Telltale Signs that a Man Is Serious About You
How do you know when a man is serious about you and your relationship? There are many actions that let you know that you are his one and only choice. If none of the following have happened, you may have a serious decision to make and very soon. He's Stopped Interviewing If he's still "considering other options," it's a good indication that he is not serious about your … [Read more...]
Thug Lovin’: Do Women Want a Thug, a Gentleman or both?
While scrolling through my news feed on Facebook, I came upon an interesting post on dating. Two simple questions were posed to ladies: "Are you a single lady? What kind of man do you desire, a thug or a gentleman?" As you can imagine, it yielded some interesting responses. Some wanted a gentleman. Others wanted a gentleman with thug characteristics. What exactly does that … [Read more...]
Ladies, Can You Really Help a Man Grow Up?
Many women credit themselves as being nurturers, which is a great quality for mothers. But what about as wives and girlfriends? Is the pronouncement "I'm a nurturer by nature" really a woman's appeal to rationalize babying adult males? I purposely cited adult "males" not adult "men." Adult men don't need to be nurtured. Here's why. Nurture Let's begin by defining the term … [Read more...]
Attn: Christian Singles! 2 Major Areas You Should Address Before You Start a New Relationship
It's tough being a single person dating in today's singles environment. Being a Christian single adds even more layers of complexity, considering potential conflicts in morals, values, spiritual goals, etc.. There will be lots of hits, complete misses and close calls in terms of finding ideal candidates for your heart. But my recommendation is not to just jump into dating … [Read more...]
Out-Dated: Dating Advice that Will Keep You Single
There is no shortage of bad advice available to hinder if not altogether ruin your relationship. Most of the time, it comes from well-meaning family and friends (who are likely passing on information that hasn't served them well if they thought about it). They mean well, but things won't end well if you heed this advice. Here's some to add to your list of "advice not to … [Read more...]
Would You Rather Be Wanted or Needed in a Relationship?
One of my followers on social media posed an interesting relationship question that she wanted me to answer along with other men who follow my posts on social media. She wanted to know what's on the minds of men. And in her inquiries, she asked a question that stood out to me: Is it better to be wanted or needed in a relationship? Although I answered the question some days … [Read more...]
A Man Reveals His Thoughts on What Makes a Woman Beautiful
“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.” This old adage is ever so true, yet somewhat oversimplified. What the eyes see as beautiful is often largely shaped by the culture in which they have been socialized. And with the socialized view of beauty, we are led to worship the shallowest semblance of beauty and shun any deviation from the mainstream’s preordained archetype. … [Read more...]
Stop Trying to Be Superman. Don’t Save Her. She Don’t Wanna Be Saved
Okay, ladies, has this every happened to you? When you talk to your man about a problem that happened to you at work, he immediately tries to offer you advice, telling you what you should have done. Now, normally this wouldn't be a problem, but his immediate reaction to preach/teach/counsel you is infuriating. But why? At times, every man wants to fly in and save the … [Read more...]
3 Lies the Media Tells about Black Men and How It’s Impacting Black Relationships
Have black men become obsolete? This sounds like a silly question to ask until you consider that black men seem to be almost non-existent in the lives of black women in film, television and news media. But, is this true? How does this media perception play out in real life. Let’s take a deeper look. Media “Affectations” How does the media play into this narrative? In my … [Read more...]
Women Say There Is Only One Reason Why Men Cheat. As a Man, I Completely Disagree
Probably like many of you, I consume a lot of social media content. I watch a lot of videos and listen to a lot of podcasts. Recently, a video caught my attention that promised to tell the one and only reason why men cheat as told by a woman. Did it matter that a woman was uncovering this reason? I will admit, it did make it interesting to hear how women form ideas about … [Read more...]
Men, This One Thing Will Make You Lose a Girl Every Time Without Really Trying
The most valuable lessons seem to be the ones that cost the most to learn. Pain is nonrefundable. There are few lessons that can compare to those gained through heartbreak. Losing a woman is at the top of that list, especially when a man loses her before he actually had her. To lose the opportunity not because he's a liar, cheater, abuser or any other heinous act is even … [Read more...]
This Black Woman Refuses to Date Within Her Own Race; Here’s Why Part 2
In Part 1, I shared the backstory that led to the writing of this article. And here, I'd like to expound. Interracial dating is a very sensitive subject. Our emotions are uniquely tied to our personal experiences. With this in mind, let me be clear: This article is not about whether or not a black woman should date outside of her race. This article is intended to probe … [Read more...]
This Black Woman Refuses to Date within Her Own Race; Here’s Why
Yesterday while scrolling through my news feed, looking for interesting content to read on Facebook, I came upon a meme that more than satisfied my appetite for literary consumption. The meme featured a couple in a noticeably suggestive pose. It was a photo of a very attractive black woman straddling a handsome white man, but that's not what prompted me to write this article. … [Read more...]
Why Do So Many Men Choose To Be Single? PART II
In part one, we looked at the reasons why good men are single and examined reasons that were not particularly of a man's own choosing. In part two, I want to take a look at some reasons why men choose to be single for extended periods of time—and sometimes indefinitely. In response to part one of this article, I received some reader comments. One comment seemed to represent … [Read more...]