So, you think you've found "the one." He's courted you for a while and you've had a successful exclusive relationship. He popped the question and you gave him the answer he was hoping for. As you go about the business of building a lifelong relationship a few things come to light. You realize that your personality differences can lead to disaster if you don't fully grasp the … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Marriages Fail Even for Christian Couples
Relationships of every kind take work. But none takes more as much work as that between a husband and a wife. It's a beast of a different breed. It requires constant nourishment, care, and reassurance. Without these, there is turmoil and a feeling of hell on earth. Christian couples tend to be, or at least appear to be, ready to address the reasons why marriages fail from the … [Read more...]
Relationship Burnout: Fighting for Your Relationship When There is Nothing Left
If you've heard it once, you've heard it a thousand times. Marriage is not easy. Like anything in life worth having, it takes work. But, what if you feel your work isn't being valued? Perhaps you sense your wife has lost respect for you. Or maybe your wife is constantly making decisions without communicating with you. If you feel like you're in a losing battle while fighting … [Read more...]
6 Tips for Creating Sexual Bliss in a Sexless Marriage
According to Newsweek, 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex less than 10 times a year, which is defined as a sexless marriage. Although I do not specialize in sex therapy, I have counseled individuals who were in sexless marriages. One of the many problems that I often address in therapy is the difference between love and intimacy. 6 Tips for Creating Sexual Bliss in Your … [Read more...]
How Do I Love My Husband When He Puts His Family Before Me?
Does your spouse or partner adhere to the "family comes first" philosophy? Read the story of a wife who’s having trouble because her spouse is seemingly forgetting his responsibility as a husband by putting his family first. In this post, I also share my thoughts on how you can peacefully resolve situations like these. Family Comes First | Staying Strong, Understanding … [Read more...]
Trust Issues: Is It Okay For a Wife to Go Through Her Husband’s Phone?
Are you experiencing trust issues in your marriage? Read a story about a woman who discovered that her husband is still communicating with an ex-flame by going through his phone. Relationship expert Dr. Dwayne Buckingham also weighs in. When it comes to privacy between husband and wife, where do you stand? Read on to learn more about privacy in a marriage in this post. Trust … [Read more...]
My Fiancé Impregnated Another Woman: Should I Invest More Time in Him?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I came across your email through a blog and I am seeking advice. About three weeks ago, I found out that my fiancé of 10 months (dated for 12) cheated on me and got another woman pregnant. This has been the roughest 3 weeks of my life. He told me the news after she reached out and told him and they supposedly did a paternity test. I don’t even know what to … [Read more...]
How Can I Get the Fatherly Love That I’m Missing?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I lost my father about 4 years ago. I was and am still dealing with grief. My issue, however, is that growing up I lived with my mom. My father lived in the same town (about 15 minutes away) but I rarely saw him. Then, later in life after I was married, we became closer. For the past couple of years, I have been dealing with depression and insecurities. I … [Read more...]
My Wife is Troubled: What is the Difference Between the Blues and Depression?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am having a hard time dealing with my wife’s emotional instability over the past three months, especially considering the recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. She appears to be depressed because she loss her mother in January of this year and was laid off from her job in April. I believe that she lost her job because she could not focus or … [Read more...]
How Do Kids Suffer in Dysfunctional Marriages?
Dr. Buckingham, I am stuck in between a rock and a hard place in my marriage. My marriage is totally dysfunctional. My husband and I live like we are roommates and try our best to remain sane in our home. However, it is becoming more and more difficult. We are in constant conflict about our finances, parenting, intimacy and family functioning. He accuses me of being … [Read more...]
Should I Password Protect My Phone or Leave My Marriage?
Dear Dr.Buckingham, I have been married for 12 years with 3 children, though I already had a child before I got married making 4 children. My problem is that I don't have access to my husband's phone. My phone is always open for him so that he can have access to it. I am getting pissed and irritated now because he will wake me up in the middle of the night questioning me about … [Read more...]
How Can I Reconnect with My Husband and Save My Marriage?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a 32-year-old woman married to a man 18 years older than me. We have been together 11 years married for 9 with 3 beautiful children. Life was great at one time but that was many years ago. This marriage has been unhappy for about 6 years. It's like one day a light bulb popped on in my head and I thought, "OH God what did I do." I want to reconnect with my … [Read more...]
What Are Some Pros and Cons of Dating an Entrepreneur?
Dr. Buckingham, I have been single for some time because I am very picky when it comes to selecting and dating men. I have done extremely well for myself as an attorney, but I get tired of the long hours and days. Nevertheless, I love the security that I have on my job. Here is my dilemma. I recently met this guy who I like a lot and he appears to be a good fit for me. However, … [Read more...]
Can Being Selfless Enhance My Marriage?
Dr. Buckingham, I am having a hard time in my marriage because my husband believes that I am too self-centered. I grew up with three older brothers and spent most of my life having them do everything for me. When I met my husband 8 years ago, I was used to being taken care of. He knew that I could be a little self-centered when he married me. Now he wants me to change and be … [Read more...]
My Boyfriend is a Deadbeat Father, Should I Marry Him?
Dr. Buckingham: I hope you and your family are doing well. My boyfriend has three kids with three different women. The first two he had when he was 20 and the kids are 7 months apart. He said he did not know the other woman was pregnant until the first baby was one year old. He lived with the mother of his second child for 5 years and they broke up because she wanted him to … [Read more...]