Along with being a relationship coach, I am an avid golfer among other things. If you know anyone who is dedicated to the game of golf, you know that we take the game seriously. We are deliberate about everything, from what kind of clubs we use (brand, loft, shaft, etc.) to what types of golf ball we put into play. Golf is such a meticulous sport, there is a science to every … [Read more...]
5 Things Every Father Should Share with His Sons
As we approach Father’s Day, we are often thinking about the gifts we can give our Fathers. I’m led to reflect on the gifts my father, grandfather and other father figures in my life gave to me. It’s important as a man for me to realize where my foundation comes from. In my case, it comes from those life lessons from my Dad and Grandfather. Respect My grandfather was a … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Magnify Respect in Your Relationship
Each day we find more and more reasons to develop distance in our relationships. We all are challenged for time and attention. Careers, children, hobbies, side jobs and other things are grasping for our mind-share. We can easily lose focus on those that care about us the most. We have to have time to devote our attention, focus and resources to those we cherish the most: … [Read more...]
3 Questions Men Should Ask Before Taking the Relationship to the Next Level
How should those of us in "committed" relationships take steps to “move forward?” Let’s touch on what things men should consider as we decide whether we want to take our relationships to the next level. Here are 3 questions to ask to determine if you are ready to move forward in your relationship: [imagebrowser id=331] … [Read more...]
3 Tips that Will Enhance Your Dating Life
One of the greatest pleasures of being single is dating. It can be a lot of fun and adventure if you are willing and committed to enjoying the process. Having a good dating life boils down to a few key points. If you implement these points into your dating habits, you will find that dating doesn’t have to seem like you’re out to chase the man or woman of your dreams like you … [Read more...]
5 Things to Consider When Purchasing a Home
Spring is often the season that couples begin looking to purchase a home. There are several factors in the decision to purchase... key is to know your criteria and rank them in order of importance for you. You also must be aware of some of the challenges and pitfalls of purchasing a home. Here are five things to consider when taking the big leap: Don’t Buy “Too Much” … [Read more...]
A Happy Bachelor Shares 5 Reasons He Decided to Get Married
For the record, single life was treating me well. I didn’t feel I was missing anything in my life. I think that’s what makes this union so great. We were whole people when we came together. We help each other, not out of necessity but because we want to. We want to see each other succeed. We are going to another level because we make each other better. Here are some of … [Read more...]
How to Keep Your Relationship and Your Friends of the Opposite Sex
Someone recently asked me how you deal with friends of the opposite sex once you are in a serious relationship. I wrote an article a while back which discusses how I was in a relationship where the woman had problems with any interaction I had with other women. Regardless if the relationship was purely platonic, close friends, or work related, it was all an issue to her. The … [Read more...]
Stop Waiting on a Date: 5 Activities You Can Do Alone this Spring
Springtime always gives us a sense of new birth and new beginnings in our lives. It’s a time to refresh and start anew. This is why we often do spring cleaning and de-cluttering around this time of year. It’s a time for a brand new start. Singles, springtime is a great time to find things to do which are about “doing you” rather than trying to find someone else. When Mr. … [Read more...]
How I Pulled Off a Surprise Proposal at the Chrisette Michele Concert
I have been dating Tawanna for about a year and a half. Once I knew she was the one, the next step was to decide how to make the proposal happen. There’s a creative side to me that wanted to do something that had never been done before, or something elaborate and entertaining. I also considered maybe it would be best to keep it private and personal. I struggled with a … [Read more...]
Single Parents: 4 Things Your Kids Are Learning from Your Relationships
As a single father, I’m always careful about who I date, who I bring around my children and deciding the right time to bring that special someone around my children. Those are important concerns to think about when raising a child. Your children deserve to see you happy and in a productive relationship. Not only is it good for you, but it’s good for the child to see what a … [Read more...]
How Long is Too Long to be Just Dating?
Many women have asked me how long is too long to be dating or when they should expect to see their relationship take a step to the next level. Decisions like this have to be a topic of conversation in the relationship. As a man, if I’m OK with where we stand, or I don’t anticipate getting engaged, we need to have that discussion. I can’t tell you exactly how long is too … [Read more...]
Start, Stop, Continue: 3 Ways to Improve Your Relationship
In my work in the technology field, we had an exercise we called, “Start, Stop, Continue.” The premise was for individuals to work with their supervisor or manager to decide what they needed to start doing which would enhance their work, what could they stop doing as it relates to the job and what they agreed the employee should continue doing as a best practice. Since I … [Read more...]
Single Fathers: Don’t Step Up to be a Parent, Never Step Down
The unfortunate reality is there are a lot of single men with children, especially in the African American community. It’s unfortunate because every child could benefit from being in the house with the two parents who cared enough to bring them into this world. Regardless, the society we live in has many single men who are a part of raising a child either in their home, in … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Survive Black Friday and Other Holiday Shopping Madness
Many of us in America feel that Black Friday is the official start of the holiday shopping season. I beg to differ. I believe Black Friday is the second official holiday in the holiday season. I have friends and family who prepare for Black Friday well in advance of preparing for Thanksgiving or Christmas. They are looking for deals and doing research early on what stores … [Read more...]